My wedding is in nineteen days (eek!), and my mother is a bit pushy. I've tried really hard to incorporate her ideas, and since her and my father are paying for the reception, I let them pick everything for it once the venue was chosen (food, drinks, etc.). My mother keeps pushing me to include more and more family members in arrangements, like cousins playing piano at my ceremony and trying to set up a jazz trio of family members at the reception. I think this is inappropriate. What's worse is that it's only her family that she's including. Out of 150 guests, only ten of them are from my father's side, and she complains every time my Mother in law does something similar. What to do? I love my family, and I'm grateful that they want to contribute, but this is getting out of hand. I also think my fiancee's family is going to start getting offended if she keeps excluding them.