Okay, I haven't seen anyone else address this yet, so I'm not sure what to do. I live in Colorado and will be getting married here in July. The only family members I have who live here are my parents; the rest of my family lives in New England and the majority of our guests live somewhere on the East Coast. One of my mother's sisters recently asked her what we're doing about a bridal shower. My mother assumed that some of my friends/co-workers would throw one, but I don't think that's going to happen (showers aren't allowed at the office and I don't think most of my friends have the time, money, or inclination to host a shower). Both my mother and I don't think it's fair to our guests to have them fly out here for a shower then have to fly back out for the wedding a month or so later. Now my aunt wants to host a shower for me in Maine, even though there's no way I can be there, and then just ship the gifts to me. I'm not sure I'm comfortable with this. I mean, if I can't even make it to my own shower, shouldn't I just not have one? I'm afraid this will make me seem like I'm gift-grubbing, even though it wasn't my idea. Should I tell her I don't want her to host a bride-less shower, or should I just let her do what she wants?
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