I'm sorry, I just need to let off some steam and my friends are tired of hearing this and so is FI, so you get the lovely option of reading it. Or you can skip it entirely and just tell me to suck it up and deal (as I know that's the end result!)
FMIL makes me want to stab her in the face. She BLATENLY cheats on FFIL and basically rubs it in his face, as well as her children's faces, every chance she gets. "Going out for a bit" has turned into 4 or 5 hour jaunts to who knows where. She has "forgotten" to pick her youngest up from church, and school, and work. She left FI alone in the hospital over the summer when he was having surgery because she wanted to go talk to her girlfriend - oh, did i mention that she's decided after over 20 years of marriage she's gay? And she is unstatisfied with all of my plans for the wedding so far, even though I have made it clear that 98% of them, disregarding venue and date, are simply ideas because we are 18 MONTHS away!
FFIL is way to passive for me. He lets FMIL do whatever she wants and just hopes that "she'll come back to us soon". He is depressed but won't accept help, and is relying fully on God to solve the problem and "bring her back". Please don't get me wrong, I'm a Christian too, but she's running amok with joint bank accounts and he's not doing anything to stop it. AUGH. And he's upset because I have asked my pastor to do the ceremony for the wedding, even though FI said it was a-okay by him.
And FSIL...ugh. She freaks out whenever FI mentions the word "wedding". She was hysterical when we began attempting to set a date - apparently we're "moving too fast" and I am "rushing" her older brother into this marriage, even though he is the one who suggested the date. And the fact that we're getting married at their home church but using their regular pastor is "UNACCEPTABLE".
FBIL and I have no problems. Mostly because he rarely speaks.
TL/DR: FI's family is making me CRAZY and I can't stand it!
I am aware that I have to suck it up and deal. I am also aware that my family is not easy to get along with either, and FI must be feeling some of this- I'm just used to my family by now and they are WAY different! I am doing this as best as I can with a smile on my face. We have 18 months of this before the wedding. We're barely at the beginning of planning. It's only going to get worse. But we will make it through, and everything will be fine, and I will only have to see them a few times a year. It will be fine.
Thanks for the rant space. I needed it. If you made it this far - you're dedicated!