OK... let me begin by saying that I am a person with strong opinions, but I am trying to be supportive (I really am)... but I need an outside viewpoint and encouragement in being supportive.
So my oldest brother got engaged in September to a girl who is extremely high maintenance, but is very sweet. When they got engaged my FI and I were already planning for our wedding in May. She said she wanted to get married in April (the week of Easter) so it would be a "holiday" and everyone would be even more focused on them than if it were a "non-holiday" weekend. Two months later- in November- she decided to make their wedding the DAY AFTER CHRISTMAS!! They had to rush to get everything done. The Invitations were still sent out like 10 days AFTER the requested RSVP date. Not to mention, she included a color palate of what the guests are allowed to wear to their wedding! My sister and I are "honorary bridesmaids" which I had never heard of until this wedding...
(but back to spending Christmas without FI.) When she decided to change the wedding date to Dec. 26 she was all excited and said to me, "Won't this be fun?! You and FI get to spend y'alls first Christmas engaged on a 'vacation'" (as the wedding location is 10 hours+ away from where we live). I told her that he works retail and will not be able to get off that day. To that she said, "Oh well! You can have a party without him!" Ummm... I am really trying to be supportive here but they are making it very difficult! I am a firm believer that the bride should be a princess on her wedding day, but to ruin everyone else's CHRISTMAS?! I just don't agree with that!
Any advice is welcomed... Please help me be positive about this situation... Thanks!