For my wedding, my FI and I were thinking that we would have the wedding at 2:30 pm and then after we would do our pictures. The wedding is going to be in our yard so while we are doing pictures, we are going to have like a cocktail hour in the house so that no one is just sitting around. We were thinking that the reception would start at 5 and that it would be about 2 1/2 to 3 hours long. We dont really want to do a dance or anything like that, but after the reception, we are going to have some of the people (anyone who wants) come back to our house and we will have drinks and a fire. I was telling my mom this and she said that it is stupid for us not to have a dance. She says that the dance and the drinking is the only thing that people even come for and that no one really enjoys the wedding but the people getting married. Also, she says that it would be a HUGE dissapointment if people drove to come to the wedding and then they didnt get drinks and a DJ. Me and my FI are paying for this out of our pocket and I reminded her of that. She just said to spend less on the dress and those details and more on what people are going to want. I look at this as my day and I would rather have the dinner at the reception and then just go back and hang out with the people in a more casual way. Is it really that important to have a dance that I should give up other things to make everyone happy? I have never heard anyone complain about having a wedding to go to because I mean no one has to come. Maybe i am just not thinking about this the right way, but I thought it was my day...not my moms...I would really like to know what people think. Thank You!