Hi ladies! I need advice so that I can give advice. Not only am I a future bride to be.....but so is my best friend of 15 years. I am her MOH and she is mine. Her wedding is before mine but she is getting COLD FEET.
Every night I speak to her and she continues to say that she is not sure if she should marry him. I try to talk her into going forward because they have put deposits on EVERYTHING....and most importantly of all, she LOVES THIS MAN. Her only drawback is his mother. His mother can't afford to keep her house so my MOH's FI lives with her and pays most of the mortgage. Her FI has said that after they get married, they will move into his mother's house and live there. She doesn't want to do that. She doesn't like his mother's neverending comments about her. His mother is always involved in their arguments--- wants to know what happened and giving her input. My BF wants to pick out her own house. Cook in her own kitchen. Sometimes his mother says to him "yall can move out if yall want. I will just have to find a new place to live." And makes him feel really guilty. He told my BF that he can't "turn his back on his mother." My BF/MOH does NOT want to live there and is ready to call it off because she is so upset. She doesn't know what to do....and I don't know what to tell her. All I know is that I wouldn't do it....and I feel horrible telling her to go forward with the marriage, but in the next breath telling her that I wouldn't live with his mother.
I just don't know what to tell her. She has already talked to him and he seems to be set on continuing to live with his mother, despite the fact that she doesn't want to. So I guess I want to know....what is the best way for her to handle this situation. Her wedding is in 5 months!
Sincerely,
Distressed Friend