So H's mom's bday falls a week after mother's day. He got an email last night from his sister that was saying she wants to send their mom and dad on vacation for her bday/mother's day. Now, I don't really care for H's family and H doesn't either; they've said some nasty things to me and about me to H, but we've tried to get past it and everyone is cordial to each other. Normally, we'd say "ok, we can contribute $XXX for this" and then SIL would have to pay the rest herself, if it was an expensive trip.
However, we have had some major necessary home repairs and just don't have a lot of extra money. SIL is going to throw a fit when she hears this because, once she wants to do something, she has to have it her way. We haven't had to deal with anything like this yet (no asking for money-type issues) since we haven't been married too long. If we had any extra money, I wouldn't hesitate to give anything.
Anyone else had this kind of situation? Advice on what to tell SIL without having her get all bent out of shape?