Well my dad and i lost out on alot of years due to his wife. Well they are not married but have been together since i was little. When i lived with them she was horrible to me growing up called me fat and always hated on me and my brother. Well for 10 years i had no father because of that. Finally 8 years ago my dad and i reunited under the terms that they thought i had cancer , but it ended up after the surgery all clear. I speak to him every week on the phone and he flys down every 2 years for a visit(without his other half) ! Well my brother called the other day and said he spoke to my dad and wanted to see if they could fly down together, and my dad kinda mentioned that his other half would maybe be coming. My brother also stated that if she came he would not be coming to the wedding. Even on Facebook i have a page and all my long lost family is on there with me she has friend requested everyone but me of course. I really want to be the bigger person here but she really was awful to me and would have our dad and grandparents never spend time with us. Now all of a suden she wants to come to the wedding? Is it because she wants to ruin my special day? She surely will not be there because she is happy for me. My broher lives near them and can not go visit my dad that is how bad it is. I only wish i could approch this in a good way, any idea's? My brother is very much a part of my life and i would much rather have him there. Everything has always been about her kids(whom she had with someone else) we lost out on many good years. I am so looking forward to my dad coming and walking me down the aisle, and having that father daughter dance. Do i just forgive and try to be the better person and hope she will not wreck my day?