Hi everyone! I'm writing from the near-end of my wedding dress-finding-rope!! I am so, so, stressed, depressed, bummed, sad, and near on the verge of tears I'm having such a hard time finding "my one". I've loved a few dresses, but only one gave me an excited feeling, and my mom HATED it. I thought it would be easy to find my dress, since I have pretty classic style tastes (want a ballgown, w/ sweet heart neckline, and a low back -- but -- I really do love/keep being attracted to the more modern skirts you see these days that have a bit of texture to them).
Anyways, I found two gorgeous dresses at Priscilla of Boston (The Vineyard "Maeve" dress and the Jewel JL228, here's a link:
http://www.priscillaofboston.com/Designer-Style-51394). Both really looked lovely, but I didn't have overwhelming "this is the one" feelings when I tried either. I think it's because the skirts were so "safe" (no fun texture). I went back last Friday and planned to buy the Jewel one, since I had a 15% off coupon that expires this Monday, but panicked and didn't buy bc I'm just not in LOVE/love. You know?
On top of not exactly finding a dress I immediately loved, my mom was so critical of the construction of every dress I've tried on, asking about fabric, hemming, the type of lace, how my small chest looks from all angles, how a bow flops, etc.. Needless to say, I didn't get the teary-eyed mother-daughter experience I'd hoped for.
I finally went out on my own twice and found a dress that is SO "me" I nearly started sobbing in the dressing room. I was a *little* worried that maybe the skirt was a bit out there, but I really loved it overall. I was excited to wear it and it made me feel great. I didn't really want to take it off. It has the elements I want AND the fun, textured skirt. (And to boot, my name is Wendy and SO IS THE DRESS'! How weird, right? It's the Spring 2012 "Wendy" dress, by Alyne). I called my mom. She came THAT DAY to see it and she, my brother, and my 11 year old sister actually burst out laughing they hated it so much. I was absolutely devastated. My mom said she thought I'd regret such a trendy style skirt down the road, and I wonder if she just vocalized a fear I was hoping she'd assuage. I don't know. But to actually laugh? I can't deal! I'd told my consultant, Beth, that my mom probably wouldn't like it, so she was anticipating this. But then...As if it couldn't have gotten any worse, the shop owner told me to only come back if I planned to buy it. (La Reine Bridal in Waltham, MA. Don't give her you business, seriously!). It's a $3600 dress!!! I couldn't believe it!
I left empty handed.
I'm feel tons of pressure too, because I got a 15% off coupon from Priscilla's that expired Saturday, but was extended for me until Monday, since the ladies there know I am extremely stressed out about this decision.
I asked my finance to describe the dress he pictures me in and it does match my ideal, save the textured skirt -- but he has assured me he'll love me in anything! I'm driving him crazy harrassing him about dress pictures though. I'm actually at the point where I've shown him dresses I tried on, to just covering my face in photos of me in the dress. Terrible. I know. I'm not superstitious, but I feel terrible bc he genuinely wants to be surprised by what I wear.
Please help! What should I do? I know I'm going about finding my dress all wrong, but I don't know how you SHOULD look for it. Do I step back and take a break from looking? Give up the coupon? Did YOU feel the feeling of "this is the one"??
I'm ready to just pick anything at this point. Thank you all!