On Christmas Eve, my FH and I told my FMIL that we are not inviting children to our wedding in August. She FLIPPED out on both of us. Screamed at us, pointed her finger in my face, called me selfish, that I have no regard for other people and am not being politically correct. I excused myself from the room before I said anything I would regret. My FH stuck to our guns and told her no. She dropped the issue for now, but I know it's still going to be a battle. Also on Christmas Eve she told me I was basically ruining her Christmas because they rearranged Christmas to accommodate me because I had to work on Christmas. I work nights in labor and delivery at a hospital. Babies still want to be born on Christmas. I had told her multiple times before this to have Christmas without me so she could have more time with my FH and his brother, who lives out of town. She declined every time. But then told me I was the reason she barely got to see her sons this Christmas. Then, on the 26th, she got very excited that I am going dress shopping on the 31st and invited herself. Okay. Fine. Come dress shopping. Tonight, she calls me AT WORK to talk to me about the guest list. She already has double the amount of people we told her she could invite and she wants to invite more. We have changed our venue to accommodate all the people she wants to invite. All I could think of was I am at work! I am delivering babies! This is not appropriate! My FH is being very supportive and great at presenting a united front to his mother. She is way over stepping her bounds. And everyone tells me "its YOUR wedding!" but that is easier said than done in practice.
My own mother lives out of state and is being great. She is helping as much as she can but being very respectful of our ideas and feelings.
My MOH has said she's got my back when dress shopping, if my FMIL starts anything she said she will handle it.
Basically Chrstmas Eve I was bawling my eyes out and my FH really came through for me. And now my FMIL is going on like nothing has happened and that her treatment of me is totally acceptable. I'm not sure what to do. I can't handle 7 more months like this. Any advice would be great.