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Re: Why are some of these girls so mean?!

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_why-are-some-of-these-girls-so-mean?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:5efe7137-1bf3-4d90-a2e6-08e828d06315Post:69733ba6-2503-4b0a-8bfb-97d8f7877c1e">Why are some of these girls so mean?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm new to these boards, but have been following them for a while.  Over and over and over I read innocently posted questions, some just naive, and some of the responses are downright evil!  Why do people feel the need to post such harsh and mean things to complete strangers?  If you don't like the original question or you think something is rude/tacky/inappropriate, why respond at all?  I thought these boards were to give and get real advice?  I'm scared to post any more!  What happened to manners!  Please give me hope that there are kind and helpful brides on here!
    Posted by jsm300[/QUOTE]

    Pfft.  Your <em>mom</em>.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Why are some of these girls so mean?! : Pfft.  Your mom .
    Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

    Best response in the whole thread.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are some of these girls so mean?! : I don't condone being mean just for the sake of being mean, but my guess is that most of the posts you're referring to are people just being brutally honest - not mean. My guess is that the girls who post those questions have already been told by someone that it's tacky to do that kind of registry. Otherwise, why would they even have that doubt in their minds? Obviously, that statement alone is not going to be enough to convince them it's a bad idea. <strong>Some brutally honest opinions are most likely what they'd need.</strong>
    Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

    Yup. This.

    The only "mean" comments I've seen on here are when people label someone as a "troll" because they have a different opinion. Makes newbies kinda feel like they aren't wanted b/c they're not in the clique of regulars...but its not common, and its usually when they come out with some bogus response to something. I find this all entertaining and am not going to go to bed crying b/c someone disagrees with me.
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  • I think a lot of it depends on which boards you post on. Some groups have a more sarcastic nature (sometimes jokingly, unfortunately other times, seriously), some are really friendly and excited, and everything inbetween.

    I'll admit, when I was newer here, I, unknowing of the way that board works, posted on the "Wedding Woes" board, and to be honest, there were some really awful things said. Amongst those awful things, a lot of them may have been right and/or had good advice masked in the harsh words, but it was very hurtful and completely unnecessary to be worded the way it was. I've even seen polls people have posted there that are pretty much attacking/making fun of other brides, but that's the way that board is. I just learned to not post there, and found boards with ladies that have more similar personalities as me.

    I'm so sorry you've had a bad experience so far. Some people are brutally honest - and even if they're coming off as rude or hurtful, it's their right to be that way. Just try to be the bigger person, and find somewhere else to post. I've found the Students board to be very helpful and supportive, as well as few other boards here and there. I've also found a diverse mixture on some of the bigger boards (reception ideas, ettiquette, etc.) - which is actually kind of nice, because then you get all sorts of advice/suggestions, from lots of different people with different views, opinions, and ways of doing things.

    Good luck, sweetie. I hope you find a board where you can just fall into place soon. PM me if you need anything. <3
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    [QUOTE]Cue the Full House music... I think OP just set everyone straight on being a nice person on the internet.
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    </div><div>I know the post is pretty much dead, but I had to add this! </div><div>

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  • Maybe your just immature and can't handle the fact that other people call you out on your ignorance...You probably wouldn't get the responses that you got on the WP board if you would've had enough common sense  not to post such a moronic question, and you seriously shouldn't bash your responses on another board. And we aren't "mean" we are honest...would you rather us lie? Uh, honey, I hate to break your delicate and sensitive little bubble, but NONE of us are going to sugar-coat your crap so you get the response you want. Ok? Grow up.
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  • i've met some pretty nasty people on the boards.  Been called names and told I don't know what love is because I don't share other poster's religious beliefs.  Other than that, seems like most people give good advice and often in a hilarious fashion...
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    [QUOTE]i've met some pretty nasty people on the boards.  Been called names and <strong>told I don't know what love is because I don't share other poster's religious beliefs.</strong>  Other than that, seems like most people give good advice and often in a hilarious fashion...
    Posted by mrszeno34[/QUOTE]


    If you purposely refer to me, I still stand by what I said.
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  • edited March 2012
    You're not the only one, but what you said definitely ranks as one of the most horrible and offensive things anyone has ever said to me.  Nice to know you're standing by it.
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    [QUOTE]Maybe your just immature and can't handle the fact that other people call you out on your ignorance...You probably wouldn't get the responses that you got on the WP board if you would've had enough common sense  not to post such a moronic question, and you seriously shouldn't bash your responses on another board. And we aren't "mean" we are honest...would you rather us lie? Uh, honey, I hate to break your delicate and sensitive little bubble, but NONE of us are going to sugar-coat your crap so you get the response you want. Ok? Grow up.
    Posted by SugarFoote[/QUOTE]

    <div>This doesn't sound very nice.  Doesn't god say to love and respect everyone? God is love, right? FFS you are hpyocritical. </div>
  • edited March 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_why-are-some-of-these-girls-so-mean?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:5efe7137-1bf3-4d90-a2e6-08e828d06315Post:75343ae1-57f8-432b-83cc-c2ae53140142">Re: Why are some of these girls so mean?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Maybe your just immature and can't handle the fact that other people call you out on your ignorance...You probably wouldn't get the responses that you got on the WP board if you would've had enough common sense  not to post such a moronic question, and you seriously shouldn't bash your responses on another board. And we aren't "mean" we are honest...would you rather us lie? Uh, honey, I hate to break your delicate and sensitive little bubble, but NONE of us are going to sugar-coat your crap so you get the response you want. Ok? Grow up.
    Posted by SugarFoote[/QUOTE]

    <div>It's one thing to be snarky.  It's another thing to call people names and take it way too far.  Sure, some people ask some pretty silly questions, but to question their maturity and tell her she isn't old enough, smart enough, or mature enough to get married is a completely different thing.  What kills me is that people on the this board (and others) get some downright cruel and rude under the pretense of providing etiquette advice.  Since when is it proper etiquette to tell someone to (and I quote) "eat a diick" when she dared to call you out on your rude behavior?  No where in the world is that proper etiquette.  It seems like <em>all </em>of these boards have become downright cruel.  I don't think it's right to sugarcoat things but surely there are other ways to tell a bride that what she is doing is not appropriate without it turning into a personal attack and mean-girl middle school style name calling. </div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are some of these girls so mean?! : It's one thing to be snarky.  It's another thing to call people names and take it way too far.  Sure, some people ask some pretty silly questions, but to question their maturity and tell her she isn't old enough, smart enough, or mature enough to get married is a completely different thing.  What kills me is that people on the this board (and others) get some downright cruel and rude under the pretense of providing etiquette advice.  Since when is it proper etiquette to tell someone to (and I quote) "eat a diick" when she dared to call you out on your rude behavior?  No where in the world is that proper etiquette.  It seems like all of these boards have become downright cruel.  I don't think it's right to sugarcoat things but surely there are other ways to tell a bride that what she is doing is not appropriate without it turning into a personal attack and mean-girl middle school style name calling. 
    Posted by Princessvera4712[/QUOTE]

    Interesting...reading to your post, Im thinking "wow couldn't have said it better myself" then I got to the "eat a diick" part (and if we are on the same page) that comment was directed toward me by a lovely lady who claims to know so much about "etiquette."   (Now I like your post ever more...lol.)  Everyone is different and no one person is better than another.  I think a lot of ladies are down right cruel on these boards...not bc someone said something silly or tacky or rude and their trying to help, it more of a "holier than thou" complex and they really get off on being a "mean girl." Bc we are online and not IRL ppl think its a free pass to act like an asshole to others.  I bet if we were face to face they would not speak in that manner.  At least I would hope not.
    If you are doing something differently (not just wedding wise, im talking in everyday life and in any situation) and someone does not agree or would not do it that way, it doesn't make your way wrong.  It just makes it different. 
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_why-are-some-of-these-girls-so-mean?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:5efe7137-1bf3-4d90-a2e6-08e828d06315Post:61f2074c-52d1-483e-a8cd-c43bae6b9a96">Re: Why are some of these girls so mean?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are some of these girls so mean?! : It's one thing to be snarky.  It's another thing to call people names and take it way too far.  Sure, some people ask some pretty silly questions, but to question their maturity and tell her she isn't old enough, smart enough, or mature enough to get married is a completely different thing.  What kills me is that people on the this board (and others) get some downright cruel and rude under the pretense of providing etiquette advice.  <strong>Since when is it proper etiquette to tell someone to (and I quote) "eat a diick" when she dared to call you out on your rude behavior?</strong>  No where in the world is that proper etiquette.  It seems like all of these boards have become downright cruel.  I don't think it's right to sugarcoat things but surely there are other ways to tell a bride that what she is doing is not appropriate without it turning into a personal attack and mean-girl middle school style name calling. 
    Posted by Princessvera4712[/QUOTE]

    Are you saying that I said "eat a diick"?
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    [QUOTE]You're not the only one, but what you said definitely ranks as one of the most horrible and offensive things anyone has ever said to me.  Nice to know you're standing by it.
    Posted by mrszeno34[/QUOTE]

    I didn't say it directed to you. I just asked that question in general. And I didn't mean it offensive although that is how it was taken. I meant it as something to make a person think. God is love. If a person doesn't beleive in God, then what is love? The same goes to people who say "Oh my God!", if a person doesn't beleive in God, then why say "Oh <strong>my</strong> God"? I feel like what I asked got taken completely the wrong way. But I don't apologize for <strong>what</strong> I said, I do however apologize for how it was taken.
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  • edited March 2012
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are some of these girls so mean?! : Are you saying that I said "eat a diick"?
    Posted by SugarFoote[/QUOTE]
     <div>I was referring to a post I saw in another thread on another board.  Apparently I was not the only one who found it offensive, since it appears that the moderator removed said post, but unfortunately did not ban the person who said that since I saw she had replied to someone else with continued crass replies.  </div><div>
    </div><div>No need to get defensive if you didn't do anything wrong.  If you had read the post after mine,, you would have realized that I was not referring to you.  Apparently some people are always looking for a fight.  </div>
  • I was not looking for a fight.  I just wanted to clarify.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are some of these girls so mean?! : Are you saying that I said "eat a diick"?
    Posted by SugarFoote[/QUOTE]

    No, that post had nothing to do with you.  Another poster told me to "eat a diick."  She tried to say she she was giving etiquette advice, but really her comment was something in the realm of "my wedding celebration is a circus and there are so many things wrong she doesn't have the time to start."  When I called her out saying she didn't offer any advice just criticism her reply was "eat a diick."
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are some of these girls so mean?! : No, that post had nothing to do with you.  Another poster told me to "eat a diick."  She tried to say she she was giving etiquette advice, but really her comment was something in the realm of "my wedding celebration is a circus and there are so many things wrong she doesn't have the time to start."  When I called her out saying she didn't offer any advice just criticism her reply was "eat a diick."
    Posted by lisa3185[/QUOTE]

    I just wanted to make sure lol. Because I was qouted and then that was said in the same paragraph, so it sounded like she was saying I said it.
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  • It's easy to be brutally honest with people you don't know. I take that into consideration. I am a very very sensitive person. When I have feelings I mean there is no middle ground. I posted something and reading the comments stung, some I had to completely disregard. But others had valid points. Take the good and forget the rest. The rest just need to eat ice cream, heck I need some ice cream. Lol
  • Maybe she should uhhh..........wow. That's so rude. See that is out of line and I hope you reported the .....well you know......
  • I don't know if telling someone to eat a diick is much worse than telling them they don't know what love is, especially on a board full of people about to get married, but whatevs, that's just me...
  • Be afraid. Be very afraid...
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