So at the begining of planning, we talked to all sets of parents (fiance's are divorced). We asked them what they wanted, how they felt about things, etc. No one cared, they all said it is your wedding, do what you want.
So now, my future father in law is throwing fits about EVERYTHING regarding the rehearsal dinner. Its the only thing he's contributing to. I am having family (who live in MA and France) come down for the wedding. I assumed my grandparents/aunts/uncles would all be coming to the rehearsal dinner as would his side of the family that decided to come up the night before. We get a phone call stating that he has some "concerns" about who I am inviting. He doesn't want them to come! We offer to pay, he says its not about the cost (we're under budget even with the additional people). Its because he thinks only those involved in the rehearsal should go. But he wants peoples dates (some not so significant) to go. What they hell. Why can't my grandma be there!
He's thrown fits about other things to..just small petty things. Its ridiculous. My fiance and I have barely fought in months, and for the past month we've done nothing but fight...but its all about his father.
After a week+ of fighting, we finally got extended family invited. But each new week he has something else. Including our request that his 19 yr old step son (and 17 yr old gf) not drink. We have 2 people in our family that our officers. It just complicates things...especially if they try to drive off. I just don't want to put them in a bad situation. But he's mad about it! Its not like they're of age. They're not suppose to be drinking anyways!
I don't want to start my daughter in law status in the dog house, but I'm about ready to say forget it. I'll either pay for the dinner or we can cancel it just so he will stop this.
Any less drastic ideas??