Shameful secrets.

heyjude23

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[QUOTE]Between H & I, all 3 of our remaining grandfathers have serious cases of dementia and have had to been (or are in the process of being) moved into a care facility in the past 13 months. It terrifies me to think of how we will deal with our own parents in hopefully 3 decades (but probably sooner than that). I'm also ashamed that we don't visit any of them as often as we used to, because even though I know it's nothing they can change, I find it very difficult to sit with them and not be able to have a conversation with any of them, but if we don't visit, I feel like we have institutionalized them and deserted them, and then I feel worse. <strong>So we go, just not often, and I don't enjoy it, and that just makes me feel worse.
</strong>Posted by mrs.jesse[/QUOTE]

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this.  I go through the same emotions with my grandmother as well.  It's getting harder and harder to go visit, since I can see how she's really not the same person anymore at all and it just breaks my heart.  But my mom tells me that she always seems to do the best when I go visit, and that makes me feel a bit better.  But nursing homes in general just really depress me.

KateJ10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shameful secrets.<strong> : I am terrified of this happening to either me or J someday (or my parents too).</strong> It has been so hard to see it just with my grandma, since we were SO close when I was younger, so it is really difficult seeing her so different. She isn't the "same" person anymore and it feels so awkward and unfamiliar.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]


Me too.  I always think of one of the last scenes from the Notebook when she forgets who he is again and it makes me cry every single time. Hm I am only talking about depressing things today, I better find something more lighhearted to talk about :)

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[QUOTE]I sleep with a teddy bear that H bought me after minor surgery. It's the best, most comfortable pillow ever. That's how I justify it.
Posted by cardmonsta[/QUOTE]

I do this too, but don't justify it. I just like my bear. And he's not even a bear, he's a dog named Vanilla (H got him for me 2 christmases ago). I just say bear because I slept with Bear Bear from 3 months old until I was 19 or so, then Brother Bear (looks the same, only he's blue instead of pink) until I got Vanilla. H just rolls his eyes when I ask where Vanilla is every night.

And clearly with that, celles, I suck at being an adult too. I'd give anything to be a kid again.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shameful secrets. : Me too.  I always think of one of the last scenes from the Notebook when she forgets who he is again and it makes me cry every single time. Hm I am only talking about depressing things today, I better find something more lighhearted to talk about :)
Posted by KateJ10[/QUOTE]


Haha I totally do too. And even selfishly, I'm terrified of it happening to me because my memories are so important to me. It is probably why I keep a journal, so that in case one day I forget everything, I still have all this written down.

maratea

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shameful secrets. :<strong> I am constantly on the prowl for a mascara that will make my lashes look like goddamn palm fans</strong>.  And the only foundation that I've found that colormatches my high yellowness is at MAC, but their foundation is too heavy for me and their tinted moisturizer is too light. 
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]
If you ever find it, let me know. I have the tiniest lashes ever. Maybe I should invest in Latisse or something. I also wonder if having longer lashes would prevent me from getting as much crap (dirt) in my eyes.

mehgank

I hold my teddy bear when I'm sick, or when H is on deployment. H got it for me for Valentine's Day 2010, and he is soooooo soft. When I'm sick, I also cuddle my Mumble (from Happy Feet) that I got from Build-A-Bear.

celticmyss

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shameful secrets. : I am terrified of this happening to either me or J someday (or my parents too). It has been so hard to see it just with my grandma, since we were SO close when I was younger, so it is really difficult seeing her so different. She isn't the "same" person anymore and it feels so awkward and unfamiliar.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

<div>I am as well, both for my dad and my stepmother. My paternal grandfather had Alzheimer's and my dad had to deal with that in his 40s. I was young enough that I don't remember much about it. My stepmother is 76 (Dad is about to turn 72) and she seems a bit off at times. I am not sure if it is just her flakey personality, but she seems to get more easily confused lately. I really hope my dad doesn't have to watch someone else he loves forget who he is.</div><div>
</div><div>At the same time, I really hope my dad doesn't get Alzheimer's himself. I don't know if I could handle it. </div><div>
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cardmonsta

H bought me a pillow pet for Christmas. It's amazing.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shameful secrets. : I am as well, both for my dad and my stepmother. My paternal grandfather had Alzheimer's and my dad had to deal with that in his 40s. I was young enough that I don't remember much about it. My stepmother is 76 (Dad is about to turn 72) and she seems a bit off at times. I am not sure if it is just her flakey personality, but she seems to get more easily confused lately. I really hope my dad doesn't have to watch someone else he loves forget who he is. At the same time, I really hope my dad doesn't get Alzheimer's himself. I don't know if I could handle it. 
Posted by celticmyss[/QUOTE]


I suppose it is never easy for anyone when it comes to dementia/Alzheimers, but for whatever reason if it was a relative that I wasn't as close to, like my paternal grandpa, I wouldn't be as sad. Which makes me feel badly, but it is what it is.

alynne1113

I had a hotwater bottle that was inside a teddy bear, I named it my scoogie and cuddled with it whenever I am sick or pmsy. The bear has since fallen apart so I guess I really cuddle with my hot water bottle and still call it scoogie.

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shameful secrets. : I am constantly on the prowl for a mascara that will make my lashes look like goddamn palm fans.  And the only foundation that I've found that colormatches my high yellowness is at MAC, but their foundation is too heavy for me and their tinted moisturizer is too light. 
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]
Have you tried making your own tinted moisturizer? Just add foundation to your own moisturizer and you can make it as heavy/light as you want it.

Celles

Sesh, if my dog weren't on a crusade to save the world from stuffing -- one pillow or bear at a time! -- then I would probably do the same. 

As it is, I have a blanket I can't sleep without.  H calls it my "bear-icade" (my pet name for him is "bear"), since I wrap it around myself at night and it usually ends up bunched in between us. 

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I guess this is more a confession but I wish my dad would just quit farming and move away from our hometown.  Even though it would mean leaving their dream house and everything else behind, I just can't see a point to them living there anymore.  One day, it will all be gone anyway, and I'd rather that my parents were not there for that.

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shameful secrets. : If you ever find it, let me know. I have the tiniest lashes ever. Maybe I should invest in Latisse or something. I also wonder if having longer lashes would prevent me from getting as much crap (dirt) in my eyes.
Posted by maratea[/QUOTE]
I have crazy long lashes and I get SO MUCH SHIIT in my eyes. Brian always laughs at me because of it - I've had to go to the eye doc to get things taken out too many times to count. I wish they helped more =(<div>
</div><div>and J&K - do you have something to share? </div>
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maratea

I have a paralyzing fear of becoming a crazy bag lady. Like the kind of lady you'd see wandering down the sidewalk with no purpose. I know H would take care of me, but after he dies, if I'm still around. Especially because we aren't having kids.

musicxstore

"I also like Slipknot. And Cannibal Corpse. And Napalm Death. And Amon Amarth. Nightwish. Sepultura. Lamb of God."

Mehgank - I am  so with you on that one. Amon Amarth and Slipknot are great live.

Confessions:

No one ever wants to watch movies with me because they say my taste in them is "too weird." I love cult-classics (i.e. "A Clockwork Orange"), musicals ("The Rocky Horror Picture Show"), indies, foreign films, etc. And I hate most comedies and almost all "chick flicks."

I am pretty much a text book Type A personality and a complete control freak... I have a tendency to drive myself - and those around me - crazy. My mother has OCD and my FI believes I do, also (not sure if it's a genetic thing). He wants me to go on anxiety medication, but I haven't seriously considered it. I wish I could just let things go and be spontaneous, but I just can't.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Ever since I got lasik I get a TON of stuff in my eyes...

celticmyss

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[QUOTE]"I also like Slipknot. And Cannibal Corpse. And Napalm Death. And Amon Amarth. Nightwish. Sepultura. Lamb of God." Mehgank - I am  so with you on that one. :) Amon Amarth and Slipknot are great live. Confessions: No one ever wants to watch movies with me because they say my taste in them is "too weird." I love cult-classics (i.e. "A Clockwork Orange"), musicals ("The Rocky Horror Picture Show"), indies, foreign films, etc. And I hate most comedies and almost all "chick flicks."
Posted by musicxstore[/QUOTE]

<div>Have you seen Repo! The Genetic Opera? It is awesomely terrible. </div>

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Ha, Celles H does the same since I always say I want to cuddle with Vanilla and he acts all huffy. But it's all in fun, since neither one of us likes to cuddle when we are trying to fall asleep. He is too hot, and I like to stretch out.

H's grandpa has dementia and it's hard on H, although he tries to hide it. The last time we saw him (only my third time seeing him, and the first two times he was alert and craking jokes and playing dice with us) he had trouble talking, let alone even remembering H. He didn't know me at all and kept asking when his wife was going to come see him (she died 6 years ago). H's mom is so great with him but man, I just can't imagine how hard that would be.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Our friend who lost his baby a couple months ago split from his fiancee last night, and while I'm majorly bummed for him because he's had a very rough winter this year - I am also very relieved.  She was a bitch and would blow up at him all the time for completely ridiculous reasons.  And it made me sad that he was going to marry someone who was so unhinged.  She was talking about it on Facebook last night like it was no big deal.  I hope they don't get back together.

number55

I bite my nails into a disgusting and shameful state. It is really the thing I like the least about myself. I had stopped a for a few years (and at one point, before accutane, I had the most gorgeous hard long nails) but I have returned to my old ways and they look horrible.

I had two pieces of pizza AND my frozen pasta dish for lunch. Sigh.

musicxstore

Celtic - Yes and I absolutely loved it. I think Grave-Robber is hot. FI even liked it, which surprised me.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]Our friend who lost his baby a couple months ago split from his fiancee last night, and while I'm majorly bummed for him because he's had a very rough winter this year - I am also very relieved.  She was a bitch and would blow up at him all the time for completely ridiculous reasons.  And it made me sad that he was going to marry someone who was so unhinged.  She was talking about it on Facebook last night like it was no big deal.  I hope they don't get back together.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

Was this the same couple that you were talking about before losing their baby?

lbarr088

I'm addicted to jackets.  If I need regular clothes and I see a cute jacket, I will buy the jacket.  I could care less about shoes, makeup, or anything else that are typical lady purchases.  FI thinks I have a problem.

K Byte

I bite my nails too. I really should stop. I've stopped for a year at a time before on multiple occasions, but then when they're long they bother me because I have to actually take care of them, and then they also break easily (I think this runs in the family because my mom's nails break easily too). Meh. =/

K Byte

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[QUOTE]I'm addicted to jackets.  If I need regular clothes and I see a cute jacket, I will buy the jacket.  I could care less about shoes, makeup, or anything else that are typical lady purchases.  FI thinks I have a problem.
Posted by lbarr088[/QUOTE]
My mom is like that with coats/jackets too! It's her favorite thing to shop for and she used to have a huge wardrobe of outerwear. I think she donated some of it when they moved so now it's a more reasonable amount of coats.

adamar15

I love the Gossip Girl books.  They're such easy trashy reads.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shameful secrets. : Was this the same couple that you were talking about before losing their baby?
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

Yes.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shameful secrets. : Do you think this is stuff that was previously just landing on your contacts? Or do you just notice it more because of the focus on your eyes?
Posted by mrs.jesse[/QUOTE]

Yeah, with contacts in my eyes it was like they were a shield or something.  Even when I wore my glasses, I never got stuff in my eyes.  Now... all the time, lol.

Nebb

I broke down and bawled my eyes out when all of my vintage photography pins disappeared one day. Almost 300 pins that I'd been collecting since the beginning and I cried like I'd lost my dog or something.