I'm Muslim whih means EVERYTHING has to be halal as far as food goes. My mother says I was rude to her at a cake tasting, but I think I was perfectly patient...
Everything was going fine. I found the PERFECT cake combo on the FIRST try... I mean, absolutely amazing. I was totally happy and talking to the head baker about how glad I was that she was willing to use vanillin instead of real vanilla (vanilla is extracted with alcohol, making it haraam, forbidden) and she said it was no problem to make the cake with it. A bit in, I was asking how much she needed me to bring her for the cake and then for the frosting. She said "Well, I can't take the vanilla out of the frosting. I thought you meant just the frosting." Who the Hell buys a wedding cake for hundreds and doesn't get frosting? I didn't say that... but I was thinking it. I told her that if she was unable to do that, then I wouldn't be able to retain her services and asked if she knew anyone who WOULD do it.
My mother, who became a Muslim with me but is far more liberal than my fiance and I (read "she calls herself religious while not following the rules") said that I could just not tell anyone it was like that or just scrape the frosting off... That's like saying "you can serve cheeseburgers for Passover dinner and just tell people to scrape off the cheese." So I said, "No, we're making the wedding 100% halal (good in the eyes of Allah/God) and anything else would make us unhappy." Yet the issue kept being forced over and over. So I kind of snapped and said, "Hey, this is OUR wedding, not yours. I told you that it's not allowed for us to consume a haraam ingredient or to serve it to others. I'm not going to start out my marriage with missteps and I'd really appreciate if you respect OUR requirement for OUR wedding. If you want to cut corners on a wedding, do it with yours." I know it was... "rhymes with 'witchy'", but I'd listened to it for over 10 straight minutes and I couldn't take it anymore. Was it so wrong of me to assert myself and refuse something that would be forbidden based on my religion? Because I think it's pointless to have a wedding cake that 90% of the guests can't eat, much less the bride and groom...