Background:
Ok, so.... my FI is the only guy and the youngest in his family by quite a few years. So, my FSILs feel like I'm this kid that's marrying their baby or something like that. I think one of them (FSIL2) is seriously in love with him, it's totally weird, she gets jealous all the time and is constantly competing with me for my FI's attention, she's psycho. There are 3 FSILs.
Here's the thing:
Yesterday we were at my FMIL's house and they started asking me questions about the wedding... simple things like color schemes and stuff like that. But, they keep trying to impose their ideas and want me to do everything just like they did it for their weddings.
For example, I said it doesn't matter to me if the FGs don't wear exactly the same shoes, as long as they match each other and what they're wearing. They insisted I HAVE to have them wear the same shoes (FSIL1 is mom to a FG), I told FSIL2 who was insisting the most that if she wanted it so much she could get them the shoes (she didn't get the obvious hint).
Then, FSIL2 got a call from a friend of her who lives in Argentina and when she came back she's like "Oh, guess who's thinking of coming.......... in december!", I turn away cuz she's obviously asking me to invite her friend to my wedding. I flat out say "I don't have any more room for extra guests, I've even decided not to invite some of my friends cuz my guest list is too long". FMIL says "Oh, but some of our guests aren't coming, she can have one of their places". I say "I'm not even counting THOSE people and I still have about 25 extra people on the guest list". FMIL says "Oh, well.. then that's a problem then". WHYYYYY would I invite her friend who lives in Argentina, who I've only met twice, and who jumped on my little brother who's 15 years younger than her cuz she was too horny to reel it in???????
Then, they ask me about the RB's & BP clothes.... I tell them what they're like, tell them who they're gonna be and tell them I've already bought the fabric. Then they tell me that even though FSIL1's baby isn't in the BP (cuz he can't walk yet) I should dress him the same as them. I repeat that I've already bought the fabric, and tell them that if I do that for him, I'd have to do it for my brother's baby as well (who'll be 5 months old). Then they ask, "Well, what are they supposed to wear for the pictures?". I say "Uhhmmm ANY nice clothes?". FSIL1 "Noooooooo, he can't just wear any clothes!!". FSIL2 "Where did you buy the fabric, I can go and get some more?". It goes on... you get the drift.
Then they keep asking about the FGs dresses... and I show them what I like (cuz FSIL1 is already holding my wedding binder). Then she says "Ohhh... but don't you want the dresses to be floor length?". I say no. "Ohhh but you really should consider it... it looks SOOO much prettier". I say no. "Ohhhh but are you sure you won't change your ming, it just looks SOOOO nice!" I say NO, she keeps insisting.
How do I get them to BUTT OUT if they keep asking me wedding questions... I can't just NOT answer (Can I?). How do you all deal with nosy FILs?????????