Ok, I'm discussing this here first in case I'm out to lunch and don't realize how mean this is. Please call me a bridezilla if I am being one:
My fiance's brother and his wife just had their first child (YAY!). Little baby will be 4 months at my wedding. We have a good relationship with brother and his wife but sometimes the wife can be a little emotional (overreact / get upset easily etc.)
They are both in the wedding party (best man and bridesmaid), so I really don't want..... here it comes.....
My nephew at my wedding. I know, I feel bad even thinking it, but I don't know how it would work. He'll be less than a year old, and the ceremony is going to be outside. What if he starts sceaming because he gets hot or bored? Who will be holding him? Does my future mother in law have to get up and leave with the baby while he's screaming and miss her son getting married? Also, where is the baby going to go when we all do photos? Is a guest suppose to take care of him? (Fiance has very small family and his brother's wife will not know anyone else that well).Where is baby going to sit at dinner when his mom and dad are at the head table? And you catch my drift...
I haven't discussed this with FSIL or FBIL. I don't even know whether or not they plan on brining him. But if they are, I can picture FSIL getting very offended if I say the things above. My fiance is on the same page with me, and he also feels awkward asking his brother - at least right now.
It would make sense to me that he stays with my FSIL parents. They aren't coming to the wedding (weren't invited), and they live 5 minutes away from the wedding venue.
What do I do? I'm really not a bad Aunt (at least I don't think I am), I just don't know what normal procedure is here. Am I way out of line? Do I let FSIL pick whether or not she wants to bring him, or do I air my issues / concerns with her?