What are your thoughts?

abt87

How do you feel about the idea that "we are celebrating our two families becoming one" upon the marriage?  I feel like it's a nice, but naive thought. My parents love my fiance, but they aren't "joined" to his family. OR am I missing the point with this idea? I just find it aggravating.....

J&K10910

This seems like a really odd thing to be aggravated about.

Is there more to this story?  I mean, WHY are you aggravated about it?  If it doesn't apply to you, then just don't worry about it.  Is someone trying to force blending and happy togetherness on you?

abt87

You're right it's something so trivial to be aggravated about. I do have a few people in my life that say this.  They just say it all whimsical, and apparently it's the point of marriage to them. Don't get it, but I'm not close enough to them to ask for their reasons for thinking it. I also think aggravated is too strong of a word. I'm just confused about the reasons behind that, outside of cultural reasons. 

J&K10910

Got it.  I'm with you--I mean, we joined ourselves together...but not really our families.  I mean, I guess yeah, now they're joined by marriage technically and such, but it's not like we have giant family to-dos.

Just let it go. 

cheeseandrice

Whatever, J. You didn't take his last name. You're OBVIOUSLY not joined together.

Simply Fated

You're right, they aren't joined. Your two families aren't so much joining as much as you and he are joining and creating a new branch on tree.

J&K10910

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_thoughts-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:af0a6a55-f70e-4a0c-94b9-8bfb51a162a1Post:68ad7283-d1fa-4b83-a9e2-d301fde053ef">Re: What are your thoughts?</a>:
[QUOTE]Whatever, J. You didn't take his last name. You're OBVIOUSLY not joined together.
Posted by Steph+J[/QUOTE]

Oh no you di'int.






















(don't forget the bank accounts)

J&K10910

You should really feel sorry for FIL, since he's the one that seems to be most personally affected.

In his mind, at least.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]But, though I question your marriage, I still think you have the best wedding pictures.  So there's that.
Posted by djhar[/QUOTE]

*like*

I'd say thanks, but all we did was stand around.  The credit goes to our wonderful photogs :)

Renew2

When we got married our two families did kind of merge. I know it's not the same for everyone. But this was probably because my husband only has a sister for family and my family is quite large. I think it's kind of nice that we all consider eachother family and treat eachother as such.