Long story short, my future sister in law is a not a nice person. My fiance doesn't like her (she is my fiance's brother's wife), my fiance's family thinks she's crazy, her bridesmaids (2 of them) dropped out of her wedding because she was so crazy... She's just insane. Here's some of the things she's done:
1. For her own wedding, she made everyone meet bi-monthly to discuss their duties / contributions etc. to her wedding. She would have a complete meltdown if people didn't show up.
2. She planned her own stag and doe and her own shower, and told everyone what they are buying and who's doing what
3. Had a complete melt-down people weren't spending enough on her bachlorette party in Vegas
4. I spent close to $300 on the dress, and shoes, and she sent me an e-mail today she doesn't think she will be able to afford anything more than $100 for my wedding. Fine, but I haven't even discussed dresses yet! Why bring it up now??
5. She sends me texts only when she wants something, "Can you come over on Friday and help us move furniture" or "Come over after school on Thursday to feed our dog. We're going out". She will never call to say hello, or just to chat. She always wants something. It's a running joke now between fiance and I that when we see a text or call from her, we make bets on what she wants.
6. Demanded her parents and sisters be invited to my wedding
7. She is always saying, "I hope I don't go into labor on your wedding day." You will see from my other question that even though she's not pregnant yet, she is planning on giving birth at the exact same time as my wedding.
8. She has called me cheap for wanting some silk flowers
9. Makes fun of my thin hair and acne I have sometimes. She does it as a joke I feel like - trying to be funny, but she will never give me compliments, just laugh when she sees me and ask what happened to my hair etc.
10. VERY selfish and cheap. She demands everyone does everything for her, but she will never do anything for anyone else.
It's really bothering me that whenever we are with the family and someone asks me about my wedding, she will chime in with a stupid grin on her face and say, "hope I'm not 9 months pregnant at your wedding, or "I hope I don't go into labour on your wedding day." It's not that she will be pregnant that bothers me, it's the fact that she ALWAYS says this, obviously with the intention of trying to upset me.
A part of me just wants to completely ignore her, but another part of me wants to try and have some positive relationship with her for the sake of our future children. I want them to have a good relationship with their cousins.
How do I stop letting her stress me out? It's like she doesn't even like me. She just calls to get things from me (which I ignore - I don't give into her demands anymore), and it's whenever something good happens in my life, she has to chime in and one up me (ie my wedding and her not-yet pregnancy)
She's ALWAYS making digs at my career - saying I could lose my job in the economy.
She really upsets me - the only thing that causes stress in life, and I don't have the tools or capacity to deal with the stress. I don't know how to handle her.
It's come to the point where sometimes I think that my dress is more expensive and how it's nicer than hers, and how my wedding will be nicer than hers. It's an awful way to live and think and I don't want to do it anymore.
I think I just needed to vent. That e-mail today about the bridesmaid dress just set me off. I just feel drained.