Yesterday I got a facebook message from FI's cousin (who lives half way across the country). She wants to know when our wedding is because she plans to book plane tickets for herself and her 1-2 year old to come to our wedding.
Here is the backstory:
We have told this person multiple times what our wedding date is and we sent out save the dates in January that were addressed to this cousin and her husband. Their 2 children were not listed because we do not plan on inviting any children to the wedding aside from wedding party members (who have all offered to have family members babysit during the majority of the ceremony/reception). She also messaged my fiance and I think that since its his cousin he should talk to her. He doesn't want to deal with it because she is a stay at home mom and her kids are her world. She might get really upset, but I'm more concerned about her being upset after plane tickets are purchased. We both are assuming that she won't come if she can't bring the kid/s. FI and I are both people who hate confrontation.
I feel weird replying on facebook. FMIL is the only one who talks with her over the phone (we don't even have the cousin's number) but I don't want to make her be the bad guy since it's our decision. Anyone have any suggestions?