My family (those that who RSVP'd on time at least) were doing an amazing job at filling out their cards and such. We drew the line after 1st cousins. No children of our cousins, regardless of age, were explicitally invited. Thus far, most of the family seemed to get that and no one questioned kids or anything (so I guess I'm HOPING they understand and we don't have a gaggle of kids show up because we won't have seats for butts or food for mouths if that happens). The only people under 18 who were even invited were siblings, cousins or people where the kids were the reason we knew the parents (ie, the people I babysat for).
That is until today. I sent everyone who hadn't sent their RSVP back yet a FB a private message asking if they would be able to attend or not. I waited until after I got the mail to be sure we didn't get any today and I'm too impatient to wait for tomorrow lol So anyhow, someone responded to put them down with more than they had been invited with and I had to respond that I was sorry, the invitation was only for them and x and we only had room for them and x. They responded that they had kids and would not be attending without them.
I guess the whole tone of the message (which I know is lost, especially on FB sometimes) just seemed kind of snotty. Some cousins who were invited +1 chose to bring their kid as their date, which is fine.
For me it's more about the number they were invited with and less about who it is that actually comes. I know that we would "technically" have room for said kids, but if I start making exceptions for someone with 2 kids, I'd have to make them for the cousins with 5 kids and I'm not letting it snowball.
Tell me I'm not crazy? (andplusalso, sorry I like to write a lot at once!)
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