To Favor or Not To Favor

bredmk

I'm thinking of skipping favors. It's an extra expense. Besides, how many of the favors did you receive at weddings you actually liked? Plus, wedding planner Tara Guerard doesn't worry about them. 

So what's your vote? 

twilight.rose

We did a candy buffet, but as a general rule I only like wedding favors if they're edible. I tend not to take anything that's just going to sit around and collect dust.

CA2MT4EveR

IDK who that wedding planner is.  I don't think they are necessary and I do think people can go overboard with them.  Edible is nice, though I'm not sure I consider that so much as a "favor" as it is a thing to eat at the table. (unless it's something canned, like salsa, jam, nuts, etc)

loop0406

I personally like favors. Edible = favorite.

frogurt814

I'd say skip them if you are running into budgeting problems.  If you do decide to do something, I would also recommend something that is edible.  Those are generally the only favors I get excited about.

Hellokatie0517

I'm having edible favors and they are doubling as escort cards.  Killing two birds with one stone.  If I wasn't going to favor then I would give to charity.

GildedIcon

We had a 'No favor wedding' and it was a hard decision.  We are older (late 30's) so the majority of our guests are also older. After asking several trusted confidantes we found that people regarded them as passe`. 
I had to admit at most weddings I attended if there was a favor I politley took it (I feel bad when I see guest leave them ) but I prompty throw them out when we got home. 
I do not think you can go wrong either way.  I based my decision on-- if nobody was going to miss the favors then why I am wasting time and $ on the effort.

Enjoy your day!!!!

fallbride1109

I vote no.  Put the money towards something else--upgrade the bar, upgrade the food, spring for a better DJ, have breakfast in bed on your HM.

And this comes from a bride that actually did favors.  People told me don't bother and I wish I had listened.

MyWedding13

If you don't have money for it, then for sure skip it. This should be the last worry on your list. I would put your money in your reception for guests to enjoy!!

dco324

I am pro-favor.  I like edible favors as well-especially if you have OOT guests.  It gives them something to snack on after the wedding.  If you are over your budget then go ahead and skip them, but if you can do them, I think it's a nice gesture and something I've noticed was missing at previous weddings.

Bkseller13

My thought was to give out wildflower seed packets.  Plant the seeds if you want, if you don't, then I'll take the ones left and plant them myself.  Seems like a win-win to me. :-)

jlj331

If you don't have anything that you absolutely MUST give someone, I say skip favors. Unless you hand someone $1000, they aren't going to remember what you gave out as a favor anyway. If you have to think up something, that's a waste of your time, you would be giving favors just to give out something and no one wants that.I think they are a waste. I've always thought they were stupid, why do I have to give a favor if you're already eating on my dime? 

Or as Miss Manners says: "Who told you that you had to give out wedding favors? Etiquette has never thought of weddings as comparable to children’s birthday parties, where the guests might need consolation for not being the center of attention. You owe them only the hospitality of the occasion."

jlj331

http://apracticalwedding.com/2008/05/wedding-budget-wednesday-favor/