Stressing?

Janna2012

TheKnot tells me I have 43 Days to go. 

And to be honest, most things are done and taken care of. It's the endless list of details that are makeing me anxious. However, for me, I am a type A personality. Which means for the most part I need a certain level of stress in my life and I cope with it pertty well. The part I feel bad about is that my stress is stressing my FI out too. He is a very laidback guy and his ability to take away my stress is one of the reasons that I love him. But he doesn't handle his own stress very well. 

We were sorting through some details last night and I'm dumping everything on him. All of our family and friends live far away so we are planning this solo really. Right now I'm considering emailing my close friends and sister and basically ask them if I can talk about wedding stuff with them for a while. But then it got me thinking, that I don't want to be the type of bride that just talks about her wedding and never asks what they are doing... 

So I'm in this very back and forth place at the moment. And maybe just venting to you will help too. 

How are you dealing with the stress?   

Caitlynmk

I'm the same exact way, total type A and planning from out of town with a FI who is super laid back and agrees with anything I say. That could be a good thing, but I just want an actual opinion every once and a while! haha. I also feel bad bugging my friends because none of them have been married yet and they really aren't about the details like I am. I also know that I'm totally overthinking things.

The way I see dealing with the stress is A) yoga and working out; just forcing myself to make a decision based on what I think will be best and getting FI involved but not toally annoying him with the details; and C) reminding myself that most people aren't going to notice the things I'm worrying about like music selections or reception signage. I've also found that chatting with the girls on this board has been SUPER helpful, especially since my bridesmaids don't really undertstand all of the ins and outs of planning a wedding or wanting every detail to be perfect.

That being said, I'm not super stressed yet but I feel like when it gets to be a month away and we're trying to remember to confirm times and services with vendors, making the seating arrangements, signage, escort cards, etc. I'm going to be super stressed. So we'll see how well the yoga is working then... haha. Just remind yourself every day, as cheesy as this is, that you get to marry the love of your life and that is the most important thing about that entire wedding day.

BrideLaurenH

I did start Zumba a few weeks ago, that helps relieve stress and motivate me.

b_young31599

I don't even want to think about it... the only thing we have to do is finish paying for everything! 

jennipea382

I'm doing much better than I was a few weeks ago. I was to the point I wanted to just stop planning and elope so I didn't have to deal with it anymore. But with some of the bigger things out of the way now, I'm trying to just take it a few little things at a time. We applied for our marriage license yesterday. We're getting RSVPs back and I've been keeping up on tracking everything. I hate all the little details though because I just can't make decisions!

I've tried pawning tasks off on other people but most of the time it doesn't work. My mom and sister have been totally amazing (they put together our invitations for us, then sent them up to me because they were leaving on vacation and we didn't have a good time to meet up, plus gas would have cost the same). FI on the other hand.. I give him a task and he ends up asking me a million questions so I end up doing it anyways. MOH has been trying to be helpful but some of her ideas are totally not what I was thinking, haha.

So basically I try to take it a few things at a time. Whatever needs to be done soon, I work on that first. I've put off things like the guestbook and stuff because it's just not quite as important and it doesn't need to be done as soon as other things. I also try to have nights where I get home and just play some video games or do something non-wedding related so I can have some me time!

kaceymarie

we are having a small wedding so sometimes i feel like it's silly when i'm stressed. especially over little things! some days i'm like no biggie & others i'm like freaking out. i can't imagine brides who are having a huge wedding! i really just want the day to be here so i can just get it over with & be married haha.

Mishe+Neo

Oy. I'm far less stressed than I was last week. The woman altering my dress was MIA for about 2 weeks (her parents are elderly, and they both got sick around the same time. I was very worried about her, and did not want her to feel pressured or stressed about getting my dress done. I called her business line about 7 times and left about 4 messages...until her voicemail was full. I finally did some google-stalking, found her home number.) and now I have a "final"ish fitting scheduled for Tuesday with her. 

My bachelorette party is this coming Saturday, and getting there was a red hot mess. Old friends were trying to plan things my current friends were not able to attend (and we about 4 pregnant ladies in the mix) and it blew up about a week ago. Hopefully it'll go well.

Now we're down to attending meetings, since my planner has taken over. Today we're meeting with the officiant, caterer, and picking up my customized hanger for my dress. Home stretch!

deucedst96

Not really stressing at this point. I should be, but I'm not. Just chilling... 39 more days and I have 1 major check (Photographer) left. We are coming around to home plate.

jcsangelpen

Janna, I feel the same way. My type A personality is going ridiculously crazy about details that are, or should be, mostly under control. I have a very hard time letting other people be in charge of things, so I'm just stressed about everything! I have been meaning to spend more time at the gym and just relaxing overall, but I'm finding it hard as I'm getting ready to move, working on the wedding and working three jobs at the same time. I think we all feel like we're about to lose our minds sometimes!

The good news is that in about a month, we will all be married and this wedding stress will be behind us! Do your best to relax and enjoy your FI. That's about all we can do at this point.