I have been with my fiance for six years now and everyone ws overjoyed when we got engaged this June. My mom immediatly started planning our engagment party to be held the sunday before Labor day. I was hesitent to invite my dad (my parents have been divorced for over 20 years btw) because he has always disapointed me all the times when ive needed him or had a special event. But everyone told me to invite him so i did. When he RSVP'd about a month ago saying he would come, I was suprised and very happy. I thought maybe he was turning over a new leaf and i thought it was great for him to step up during a special occasion like this.
This morning he texted me and said "i have a problem, call me." (i already knew what was coming as soon as id read it) So i called him and he mumbled some crap about working long hours and just being overwhelmed and that he "just can't do it" whatever the hell that means... I just said in my perky voice "ok dad, no problem. take care." After I hung up I proceeded to curl up in a ball and cry for like half an hour. It's really not a huge deal because Im used to him flaking at the last minute. But it hurt because of the special occasion and it also brought back memories of waiting around for him to pick us up for the weekend and him not showing up or calling. My brother and I were always left wondering what we had done wrong and why he didn't want to see us.
My mom thinks I should tell him that it hurts me that he isnt coming and that he really needs to come. but i guess my feeling is that he should care enough to want to come. I dont think i should even have to say anything of the sort. Some of my friends and also my mom think i shouldnt even have him walk me down the aisle but i just dont want to rock the boat i guess. Although Im wondering if he will even show up now. Im just very disapointed with the situation and not really sure where to go from here.