My boss has thrown around the idea of having a small shower with co-workers and some co-workers have mentioned having a bachelorette type party. Are either of these events appropriate? No one from work is invited to my wedding. Actually no one at all is invited to my wedding. I know someone will ask, and no I don't excessively talk about my wedding at work. I was engaged for almost six weeks before my boss knew. I answer questions wedding related questions when asked. Last year a colleague got married and we had a shower for her, so it is commonplace at my work. I'm not sure how comfortable I feel about it though, but I don't want to cause drama by declining. I'm afraid that they are offering to have these events because they feel like they have to or because they know I'm relatively new to the city and don't have any family or friends nearby. This might just be me bring paranoid though. What do you think I should do? Accept and be uncomfortable or decline and risk looking unappreciative?