I am in charge of throwing my BFF's Bachelorette Party. At first, it seemed like I was going to plan it all, which I was totally fine with. But the past couple of days she has been throwing me ideas, so it sounds like she wants to be in on the planning, which is fine, too.
But she has brought up the idea of having a limo, because it will be "so cheap" since there will be a large group of us. First of all, I think it would be at least $50 pp, which isn't "so cheap" to me, in addition to whatever we end up spending on food and drinks, etc. that evening.
I guess I just don't know the protocol of who pays for all this and how to decide what the appropriate level of spending will be throughout the night. How fancy of a restaurant should we go to? Do we all need to cover her dinner and drinks so she doesn't pay? Keep in mind that none of us have a ton of money, and many are already paying to come in from out of state. Actually, it's a destination wedding, so even us local South Florida folks have to spend money to get down to the Keys and for a hotel, food, gas, etc.
What's more, her FI, is having a super expensive bachelor party. he is chartering a fishing boat in the Keys, which will be $200 bucks a head, plus, tip, food, drinks, etc, AND two nights in a hotel since they will leave early in the morning the next day and will be too tired to drive home after the boat trip. So you're looking at prolly $400!!! I think it's pretty presumptuous to ask people to spend so much money, especially when he knows a lot of them don't have it. My FI is a die-hard fisherman and just can't afford it so will not be joining them. I worry that her FI is setting a bad example and encouraging her to also throw money caution to the wind when planning her outing!
That said, I want her to have a great, fun night, but none of us are in the position to drop a couple hundred dollars. Help!