I am MOH for my only sisters destination wedding in the Caribbean. I am thrilled to be a part of this very special occasion and want to do everything right. Some people have mentioned to me that they think having a a shower and/or bachalorette party would be unreasonable being that the wedding itself is such a costly event to attend. I disagree, feeling that if people don't have the finances to attend than they wont. As it is I live in Vegas, rest of family and his live in NY so I/we are doing the traveling for any parties prior to wedding as well as the wedding trip and p.s. we are NOT wealthy people. Its called sacrifice for the important stuff!! I guess I just don't think sis should be deprived of a shower/ bp because of the location they both chose to have their wedding. Should I ask her what she wants/would prefer?? Am I wrong to think a shower is appropriate??