So do we have to have one? And if so, do we throw it ourselves? Who do we invite? I'm so confused on what this etiquette here is. We both are saving every dime we have for the wedding and the last thing we should be doing is throwing any kind of party for ourselves. Not to mention most of our bridal party lives out of town and we could never expect them to fly to us for this. Can we just skip this all together?