I have heard different opinions on who to invite to your bridal shower, but to be on the "safe" side I went with: all girl family (of which all our out of town but my mom and FMIL, no siblings), my mom's female friends and my female friends (in town and a few out of towners). This has made my guest list for the shower quite large, around 60 people (of that ~45 actually live in town). Granted, our wedding guest list is also large - about 240 adults (over 13). So...
1). Is that too big?
2). Do I need to invite out of town family? (I'm asking this b/c I wasn't going to but then my FI's aunt in Texas asked about the shower b/c she wanted to send me a gift but I don't think she'd travel here).
3). Would it be a problem to have the shower at a restaurant?My MOH and BM want to do this but I'm reluctant b/c I don't really want to ask people to pay for their own meals AND give me gifts but since it's a larger list and we all live in apartments (or aren't willing to let us use her house like one of my BMs.....) there aren't a lot of options.
4). Would it be better to rent out a community center somewhere? And if we did, could we do a potluck? And who would pay rental fees?