I need suggestions about our rehersal dinner. Traditionally, the groom's parents should foot this bill. We are in our mid 30's (my first marriage, his second). He will not ask his parents to help out financially and they are not the type to offer. So this rehersal dinner is going to fall back on us. My fiance said he would pay for the dinner. My dilemma is should we offer to pay for all of our attendents spouses/significant others or just our attendents. We have 5 attendents on each side, plus flower girl (and her parents), my parents, his mother, his dad and step mother, my grandfather and his grandmother. Is it wrong to invite just our attendents, but say their spouse/sig others are welcome to come on their own dime? Help!!