is it rude of me to suggest ideas for my pre-wedding parties (bacholorette party, bridal showers)? i know that my mom is throwing a bridal shower, but its going to be for her side of the family only. i'm not looking to have a bunch of showers/parties just to get gifts, but i would definalty like to spend time with FI's family and celebrate with my friends prewedding. i guess i'm asking if it would be rude of me to suggest to FMIL to have a bridal shower for her family, and to MOH to have one for my friends? or should i just plan one? in no way am i looking to get more gifts, so don't even think that...