MOH refusing to throw me a shower
I asked my MOH to either throw or coordinate a mini-shower so that my group of friends who are still at my college can go. I know you're not supposed to ask, but she's really clueless on this sort of thing so I thought I would nudge her in the right direction. She's not even throwing the in-town shower - my mom had to step up to do that (again, a no-no, altho the ppl who are going don't care and the knot says its getting more common, so oh well). I told her that as MOH she was in charge of bachelorette party, tho my other friend could help if it was needed, and that she was in charge of the shower arena and asked her to throw that mini-one. She told me that she was already making a desert for my mom's shower, she had no party planning capabilities, and could bring a movie she had to the bachelorette party. I'm not too thrilled at this and really wanted to do something with those friends who are back at school, but obviously can't ask one of them to do something. What do I do/say?