My FMIL and some other future in-laws are coming to town in May to meet my family and start checking out rehearsal dinner venues. My FMIL (very strongly) suggested that I should have my bridal shower during that time.
My wedding isn't until October. My MOH plans on having my shower in July/August. When I told her about my FMIL, she pretty much told me that she can't do the shower in May (I don't blame her -- it's only two months away and she is also OOT although at least in the same state as me).
Now my fiance thinks my MOH is being selfish for not considering the convenience of my FMIL, who lives across the country from us and likely won't be able to come out to a later bridal shower. I've explained to him that the bride-to-be isn't supposed to throw her own shower, so trying to force a much earlier date on my MOH is inconsiderate. I told the same to my FMIL, and she said that since I'm the bride, whatever I ask for should go, so if "I" want an early shower, my MOH should comply.
FYI: my FMIL hasn't yet been the MOB, so I'm not sure if she knows the etiquette behind bridal showers. Furthermore, her other daughters-in-law live much closer to her, so traveling to the wedding/shower/etc hasn't been an issue.
Thoughts? I don't want to offend anyone. Obviously I'm grateful that my FMIL is so excited about the wedding, is offering to host the rehearsal dinner, is interested in attending the pre-wedding parties. But...