"Surprise" Shower

thealefairy

So, my shower is tomorrow... but I'm not supposed to know that.

First of all, I'm VERY grateful that my BMs, mom, and FMIL are planning me a shower. I really do have great friends.

Two days ago, I received a text from one of my BMs that was meant for either my sister or another BM. In 140 characters it gave away the time, date, and plan to get me there. Do I tell her I know? Or do I play along tomorrow?

To give some backstory, I really don't care if its a surprise or not. Half the BMs have been asking me questions about the shower and telling me small things all along. Other BMs and my FMIL would be horrified that I know. I guess my concern is that I don't want to seem insincere when I "act" surprised, but I also don't want the BMs to feel like they failed (when they really haven't at all).

CassieeK

I would act surprised since it seems to mean a lot to them to have it a surprise.  I have never understood surprise showers, though.

kmmssg

Play along!  they have worked very hard to do this for you.  Don't spoil it for them.

thealefairy

Thanks guys! That pretty much confirms my thinking

Allycat11

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_surprise-shower-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:f759a2c0-b46e-4e7b-b8b9-9a394cb850ebPost:501cf90f-74fb-4649-b893-109475d5b2fb">Re: "Surprise" Shower</a>:
[QUOTE]I would act surprised since it seems to mean a lot to them to have it a surprise.  I have never understood surprise showers, though.
Posted by CassieeK[/QUOTE]


Ditto.  I would definitely play along because they clearly put a lot of effort into it.  However, I personally don't understand surprise showers. 

SuMmErKuTiE

Definitely play along and act surprised and enjoy your shower!

Ditto Allycat11, I never understood surprise bridal showers either. Usually the bride knows it's coming at some point so it's never a total surprise, plus as the bride, I wanted to know when my shower was going to be so I could pick out a dress and be ready for it. I would have been upset if I thought I was meeting my mom or the girls for lunch and was in jeans or something and not dressed up.

akinal311

Act surprised... I live out of town from where we're getting married and where my shower will be held. My sisters and MIL have been planning the shower - I know the date (so I could get work off and get down there) but nothing else. I HATE surprises (I can't stand the waiting part) so they all know it's driving me nuts!!