One of my friends from college is getting married next weekend, and unfortunately I can't attend because I'm overseas in Korea with FI whose stationed here and won't be back in the States until the end of next month. She was aware that I'd be gone until after the wedding, but wanted to send me an invite in case I could make it. I was invited to her shower about a month and a half ago, and again, couldn't make it because I've been here in Korea. I sent her a $50 gift card to C&B where she was registered because I thought the $10 in shipping for a gift off the list could have been better spent towards the actual gift. In hindsight, I spent a little too much money for her shower because we're a bit strapped for cash now saving for our own wedding. I'd like to send her a gift for the wedding as well if we can afford it, but would it be entirely rude if we didn't send a gift for the wedding, but rather a nice card? Is it typical to get a gift for both shower/wedding if you didn't attend either, and if so, how much would you suggest spending? I'll probably go by way of a gift card again because of shipping costs again. All of her registry items at this point are $50+, as there weren't many lower priced items to begin with and they've either already been purchased for the wedding or given to her at the shower. Thanks in advance, as always. I didn't know this board existed until I started wondering where this question would be most appropriately posted.