Ok so my reason for asking this is to just get a feel for what others think. I was talking to future-SIL and she told me that FI's parents don't believe in buying gifts off of registries (nor do they believe in giving cash). I guess she tried to explain the concept to them when their friends got married but they didn't seem to get it.
Now I understand that a lot of people get gifts that are not on their registries. Like for my shower I received a personalized cake pan with a metal lid that said "Made with Love by the S___'s" (one of my fav gifts!) and I read others who received handmade pottery or items from Tiffany's, etc. Something that has some thought in it. Future-SIL said that for their wedding FI's parents got them a glass pitcher (same one they have) and a set of glasses that matched the pattern they registered for, but that they had specifically NOT registered for because they didn't want them.
It shouldn't annoy me and I don't want to sound bitchy and ungrateful- but I feel like they should either go for a thoughtful & creative gift, or buy off the GD registry. I actually thought it was etiquette- you either buy off the registry or you give cash. But maybe I'm totally off base (or maybe I'm just venting about my F-IL's lol).
What's your take on it?