Hello everyone-
I am in somewhat of a unique situation and would greatly appreciate your advice. Here's whats going on: I am having a very small wedding ceremony (me, the groom and 4 immediate family members) in hawaii this december. I am having the ceremony videotaped and will be showing it at the reception we are having back home (in ohio) in march. The reception will be much larger but still really only family and close friends (about 80 guests total). Although it would be amazing if everyone could attend the ceremony in hawaii, I wasn't even planning on sending out formal invitations to it, as I definitely don't expect them to take the time off and spend all that money on travelling to hawaii just because i'm a diva and have to get married there
Instead I have just been spreading the word about the ceremony in a "of course you're invited but don't feel pressured to come" kind of way.
I know everyone who will be at the reception very well (like I mentioned its only family and close friends) and I can say with a good amount of certainty that even though they are not attending the ceremony, they will still want to bring gifts (I'm not trying to sound stuck up/conceited, its just that I'm the first grandchild in a large family to get married and to put it lightly my family has been on my case to get married for a looong time now so needless to say everyone is very excited for me). However, I have read that it is rude to give guests registry information if they were not invited to the desination wedding ceremony. In my case, everyone knows they are welcome at the ceremony but formal invitations were not sent. If I know they are going to get me something regardless of whether I ask for things or not, would this be an exception to the rule? I don't want to seem rude/tacky but at the same time if I'm going to be getting a bunch of gifts I would really like to register for the things I need, you know what I mean?
One more thing - I'm also planning a bridal shower in November. If I do decide to go ahead and register somewhere, should I include that info in the bridal shower invitations (as is traditional) or wait until the reception? Thanks!