SA Wednesday

crash2729

I tried so hard to make my RSVPs idiot-proof as to who was invited. 
I got a FB message asking me yesterday if they could bring their 3 kids. 

*headdesk*

kristan1022

Oh boy... the joys of RSVPs, I can hardly wait

Tonight I get to have dinner with FI and go to a basketball game Happy because he'll be here, sad that it will make me think it's the weekend and I'll be sad when I have to go to work tomorrow morning.

The Bachelor WAS NOT on onDemand when I tried to watch it last night, which meant I had to watch re-runs of Storage Wars. First world problems, for sure.

Had a very creepy dream last night involving a former Knottie who shall remain nameless.

professorscience

=(  Bummer.

Happy Leap Day!

bsn1752

Creepers are creepy.

kristan1022

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[QUOTE]Creepers are creepy.
Posted by bsn1752[/QUOTE]

<div>AMEN. And hi!! We miss you!</div>

bsn1752

I miss you guys too... it's been so freakin' busy at work.  But don't worry, I still lurk, to ban creepers or vendors.  Or creepers that are vendors.

kristan1022

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[QUOTE]I miss you guys too... it's been so freakin' busy at work.  But don't worry, I still lurk, to ban creepers or vendors.  <strong>Or creepers that are vendors</strong>.
Posted by bsn1752[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm glad you're looking out for us. Like Batman.</div>

crash2729

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : I'm glad you're looking out for us. Like Batman.
Posted by kristan1022[/QUOTE]
*dun-na-na-na-na* Bat-MOD!

bsn1752

Oh, I love Batman.  Are we talking Christian Bale Batman?  'Cuz that's hot.

professorscience

Hatters gon' hat.

kristan1022

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[QUOTE]Oh, I love Batman.  Are we talking <strong>Christian Bale Batman</strong>?  'Cuz that's hot.
Posted by bsn1752[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, yes we are. And yes it is.</div>

bsn1752

OH KRISTAN!

I saw two more librarian posts on Grapevine's website!

kristan1022

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[QUOTE]OH KRISTAN! I saw two more <strong>librarian</strong> posts on Grapevine's website!
Posted by bsn1752[/QUOTE]

<div>You are a ninja. I'll apply again, but they never called me about the last ones... starting to think my Master's degree was a really expensive hobby course. :/</div>

bsn1752

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : You are a ninja. I'll apply again, but they never called me about the last ones... starting to think my Master's degree was a really expensive hobby course. :/
Posted by kristan1022[/QUOTE]

Hmm, I wonder if there's an HR number to call

kristan1022

Perhaps. If I don't get a call back this time I'll definitely be figuring out who to contact.

My project this week at work is making mini-diplomas. Took a break from putting the cardstock into the pouches to do some laminating. Jammed the pouch laminator within the first 5 minutes... whoops.

jenbob2012

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[QUOTE]I tried so hard to make my RSVPs idiot-proof as to who was invited.  I got a FB message asking me yesterday if they could bring their 3 kids.  *headdesk*
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]

<div>rah-roh!  do you mind if i ask how you worded them?  i have a feeling i may be getting the same kind of response from my RSVPs :(</div>

crash2729

Literally I had:

Please Reply by March 24,2012 
Guest 1-Name prewritten    Beef   Chicken

Guest 2-Name Prewritten    Beef    Chicken 

___Guests Attending 

___Guests Unable to Attend

Then each card had the apporopriate amount of slots for the number of guests. (Ex. someone invited without a plus one would have just one space on their card)

kristan1022

It's frustrating that you went to all that effort and they STILL messed it up  Wish people would just use their brains sometimes.

crash2729

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[QUOTE]It's frustrating that you went to all that effort and they STILL messed it up :(  Wish people would just use their brains sometimes.
Posted by kristan1022[/QUOTE]
I just told her no. We really don't have room for three kids or to make an exception for her and not for others. Plus it was super clear who was invited.

professorscience

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[QUOTE]Literally I had: Please Reply by March 24,2012  Guest 1-Name prewritten    Beef   Chicken Guest 2-Name Prewritten    Beef    Chicken  ___Guests Attending  ___Guests Unable to Attend Then each card had the apporopriate amount of slots for the number of guests. (Ex. someone invited without a plus one would have just one space on their card)
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]

I'm pretty sure no matter how you word your invitations, people are going to try to get who they want invited to the party, unfortunately.

crash2729

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : I'm pretty sure no matter how you word your invitations, people are going to try to get who they want invited to the party, unfortunately.
Posted by professorscience[/QUOTE]
Now that I realize that I feel like all my efforts were wasted. Oh well. It will be okay. <div>Worst case scenario they'll decline.</div>

jenbob2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : I just told her no. We really don't have room for three kids or to make an exception for her and not for others. Plus it was super clear who was invited.
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]

<div>This is exactly what I am afraid of happening!  I'm trying to make it completely clear that only the number of blanks that are offered to you are the number of guests you can bring and I'm DREADING the conversations that are going to take place after.  :(  We haven't even sent out our invites yet and people are already asking if they can bring their kids.  Its one thing for family but it gets a little crazy when all the friends want to bring their kids too!</div>

kristan1022

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : I just told her no. We <strong>really don't have room for three kids or to make an exception for her and not for others</strong>. Plus it was super clear who was invited.
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]

<div>I totally feel you on this. We're providing childcare just because all of FI's OOT family have kids and won't come unless they can bring them, and we want them there so that's an expense we're willing to cover. But we aren't inviting anyone's kids who aren't OOT or aren't old enough to be left with a sitter- obviously my friends that have infants can bring them if they choose to come- because to do that would mean like 60 kids instead of 30, and we're having a wedding, not starting a daycare.</div>

laurencste

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : I'm pretty sure no matter how you word your invitations, people are going to try to get who they want invited to the party, unfortunately.
Posted by professorscience[/QUOTE]

TOTALLY TRUE!

I will never understand this. People of the world, repeat: "It ain't my rodeo"

jenbob2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : I totally feel you on this. We're providing childcare just because all of FI's OOT family have kids and won't come unless they can bring them, and we want them there so that's an expense we're willing to cover. But we aren't inviting anyone's kids who aren't OOT or aren't old enough to be left with a sitter- obviously my friends that have infants can bring them if they choose to come- because to do that would mean like 60 kids instead of 30, and we're having a wedding, not starting a daycare.
Posted by kristan1022[/QUOTE]

<div>I was seriously considering doing this as well!  I was a little worried about how much it would cost though!  My fiance and I are older, I'm 33 and he's 36 so all of our friends are just now starting to having babies.  Its great and I'm happy for them but we added it up one day and it would be something like 30 kids under the age of 3 (just friends, not family).  That's A LOT of babies!!  I know what its like when there's ONE crying baby, i can't imagine having a room stocked full of babies!  We're also having an evening cermony 6:30 and I'm wondering what is going to happen around 8-:830 when all the kids start getting tired and cranky.  I know that this is such a controversial issue and people get ***SUPER*** sensitive about it but I have a 12 year old son and I never assumed that he was invited to weddings that I was invited to unless it said so specifically!  I realize there's nothing you can really do about it and I don't have the gall to tell people flat out "please get a sitter" but I hope that at least ~some~ of our invitees catch the subtle hints that I'm trying to give them!  (evening wedding, saturday night, open bar, etc...)</div>

crash2729

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : I totally feel you on this. We're providing childcare just because all of FI's OOT family have kids and won't come unless they can bring them, and we want them there so that's an expense we're willing to cover. But we aren't inviting anyone's kids who aren't OOT or aren't old enough to be left with a sitter- obviously my friends that have infants can bring them if they choose to come- because to do that would mean like 60 kids instead of 30, and we're having a wedding, not starting a daycare.
Posted by kristan1022[/QUOTE]
I considered this but there is literally no where at the Piazza for a "daycare".  <div>I mean she's a 2nd or 3rd cousin that I've seen maybe 6 times in my life. It won't end my world if she doesn't come. </div><div>
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Jen6862

We had no kids... but of course I  had a fork o food going into my mouth when this woman starts coming towards our table with not just two toddlers, but a baby in a baby carriage! Fiance's side, some male relative who RSVP'd for 1, invited his GF and her kids "last minute" and they all drove down from Atlanta.

Good thing was fiance's family was not happy. They helped find them a place to sit, but then they must have gotten the word, because after dinner I didn't see them again.

People can be so frustrating, but I was happy other people took care of it that night and I didn't have to worry.

At least these people called to ask you--I think that makes it clear that did get your message from your invitation.

kristan1022

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : I realize there's nothing you can really do about it and I don't have the gall to tell people flat out "please get a sitter" but I hope that at least ~some~ of our invitees catch the subtle hints that I'm trying to give them!  (evening wedding, saturday night, open bar, etc...)
Posted by jenbob2012[/QUOTE]

<div>People don't take hints. That is the biggest thing I've learned in my 9 months of planning so far! </div><div>
</div><div>As far as the cost, we're figuring we will need 1 sitter for every 5-6 kids, with a designated sitter for each infant (child under 18 months) that parents decide they want to leave with our sitters. We're planning on paying the sitters $8 an hour, 4 or 5 hours depending on how the reception goes. So if we need 5 sitters for older kids and 2 sitters for babies, for 5 hours we'll be spending around $300. 90% of these kids are related and see each other throughout the year, so I'm not too worried about conflict. This, to us at least, is an expense we'll gladly take on because we want people to stay and celebrate, not leave just because they want to get home so they don't have to pay the sitter as much.</div>

kristan1022

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : I considered this but there is <strong>literally no where at the Piazza for a "daycare".</strong>   I mean she's <strong>a 2nd or 3rd cousin</strong> that I've seen maybe 6 times in my life. It won't end my world if she doesn't come. 
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]

<div>Excellent point. We're fortunate that the reception hall is in the same building as an elementary school, so space wasn't an issue.</div><div>
</div><div>2nd or 3rd cousin?? You're nice to invite family that distant! FI's family is monstrously huge, we had to cut it off at 1st cousins. Certain 2nd cousins are invited, but they are the ones we see more than once every 5 years. The rest will hear about it through the grapevine.</div>

professorscience

"Subtle hints," nothing.  If the name isn't on the invite, the kid isn't invited.

crash2729

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : Excellent point. We're fortunate that the reception hall is in the same building as an elementary school, so space wasn't an issue.<strong> 2nd or 3rd cousin?? </strong>You're nice to invite family that distant! FI's family is monstrously huge, we had to cut it off at 1st cousins. Certain 2nd cousins are invited, but they are the ones we see more than once every 5 years. The rest will hear about it through the grapevine.
Posted by kristan1022[/QUOTE]
My mother wanted to invite said cousin and I wasn't able to wangle my way out.<div>
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