This is my second marriage (his first), so I guess that's what puts me here.
I made mistakes with the person that I married beforehand. The mistake having married him in the first place, putting up with the BS/lying/cheating/manipulation, but what I don't regret is leaving him. We were engaged waaaaaay too fast, got married, and I got pregnant on the honeymoon. I regret putting up the bs/lying/cheating/manipulation for as long as I did, but I will never regret leaving him and finding my best friend and an incredible, amazing, fantastic man I now call my fiance.
I was cautious when telling my family about the engagement, even though I was over the moon. I didn't want my fiance to feel hurt if they weren't crazy excited like his family is. It's been a little bit, so I wanted to talk to my dad about vendors for alcohol, as he worked with them for thirty years. I did mention that we are on a budget, and paying for the wedding ourselves. I'm not close with my extended family on either paternal or materal side, so I am not inviting them. (We literally don't talk... ever.) Though I never intended on inviting them anyway, my dad said, "Well, that's for the best. They went to the first one. It's not important for them to go to another."
So, when people (friends, family OR strangers) say something like that, how do you grow thicker skin? Mine still stings from the blow, which was actually not the first one, but the first one from my dad.