I guess my question would technically belong here, since I can't think of any reason it would fall under any other category... I'm just having some problems wrapping my head around everything that has to get done!Here is my situation: We got engaged a year ago. We originally slated the wedding to be in May of 2010, but when my job took a turn for the worse, I headed back to college. May of 2010 would have been the month I spent doing finals, so we pushed the wedding to August of 2010.Recently, my hours have been cut at work and I am not making the extra money we needed to budget for the wedding. (We are paying by ourselves: no parental assistance. We want our parents to enjoy the day without worrying about the price tag!) This has led to the unfortunate conclusion that we cannot afford to have the wedding in August of next year, as we have not saved enough and are now forced to dip into what we DID save to make ends meet. Earlier this year my FI and I attended his brother's wedding. It was a very small affair, just immediate family, and a JOP to make the marriage legal before the brother went into the military. The couple is intending to have the big wedding when he gets out of the military in four years.This presented a solution for us: If we just have a small, personal ceremony/celebration with the people we absolutely want to have there (parents and siblings), then a larger wedding with all the traditional trappings we were looking forward to once I have finished school and the economy turns the corner (assuming it ever does)... that would solve a lot of the issues we were facing. We wouldn't have to wait for a marriage, just for the big wedding that he's always wanted.My question is this: technically, this will be the first wedding for both of us (and, we hope, the ONLY wedding for both of us!). When we do the larger ceremony and reception for friends and family, would that be called a wedding ceremony or just a vow renewal? Would we change any customs that would "typically" be involved in a wedding, such as the exchange of rings or lighting of a unity candle? What would we change, and what could we keep without looking silly (because, technically, we would already be married?)? I hope this isn't a silly question... I hope it makes sense, and I thank everyone in advance for their help!