Giving the bride away...

lynetteb79

Is it considered correct or incorrect to have your father give you away at your second wedding? He did the first, but wasn't thrilled about the marriage and pretty sure he did a happy dance behind closed doors after the divorce. So my sister insists he would LOVE the opportunity to give me away to a "good" guy this time around....but I'm thinking not very appropriate for second weddings...especially given the fact we have lived together for 3 years already...

I do know that it's really a matter of opinion...but you guys (the posters) on this board are SOOOOO incredibly helpful in all my questions so far (AND I GREATLY appreciate it!!). 

All of this is new to me. My first wedding, honestly, was because I was pregnant. So his mom took care of everything..."You'll get married in our church by our preacher, burgundy suits your personality, we'll use that color", etc. So I didn't get to, per se, plan anything.

This wedding...(my second, his second..keep in mind his first was at the JOP with just their parents in everyday clothes) we are torn between what feels right to us/what we would like to do/what others will think or say/it not being "wedding-y" enough, etc. So while I know I'm FULL of questions...I do appreciate the help, suggestions, and opinions!

coopsbaby

If you would like him to, and he would like to, then do it. I've seen it at second weddings and never gave it a second thought!

squarepeg72

Ask him. If he is comfortable with it, go for it. Remember - this is your wedding, not anyone elses. Do what H are comfortable with and enjoy your special day.

Meghannsix

Technically, any one person should not give you away twice, but in this day and age, I say go for it! 

right1thistime

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[QUOTE]Technically, any one person should not give you away twice, but in this day and age, I say go for it! 
Posted by Meghannsix[/QUOTE]

Not sure what technical manual exists for second weddings, but etiquette allows you to be given away at them.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />Maybe that's the manual that 2D Bride's xH refers to when he said that HE should be the one "giving her away"? 

Yes you can have your Dad escort you (I really prefer that wording), if its what YOU want, and your Dad wants. 

ETA:  And have your wedding all wedding-y, if that's what you and your Fi want.  There's no rule against THAT either.

2dBride

I'm not a big fan of being "given away," regardless of whether it is a first or subsequent wedding. (And my xH's offer to give me away at my second wedding didn't exactly improve my view of it.)   I rather like the Jewish tradition, in which bride and groom are each escorted by both of their parents.  But you can be escorted by anyone you like--or you can walk alone or with your FI, if you prefer.

Lisa50

My father escorted me to the altar at my first wedding.  I was not given away, though.  Both he and I would have been extremely uncomfortable with that concept.

For the second wedding (July 3, 2011), my fiance and I walked to the wedding canopy together, hand-in-hand.  Awww ....

Sue-n-Kevin

Ask your Dad. If he says he'd like to do it, then have him escort you. Or, you could walk down with both your parents (if your Mom is still alive and wants to), or you could walk down yourself, or with your fiance. Whatever feels right to you & your fiance, then do it.

amy070412

I have children and I have thought about having my father and my son escort me since they are the two most important men in my life and they will always be there for me.  If you have children ask them as well as your father  and have two escorts.

Meghannsix

FWIW, my kids are walking me down the aisle, and instead of being "given away", my FI will be "added to our family", and idea I got from another knottie, unfortunately I can't remember who.

RichNicci4211122

This is my 2nd marriage and FI's 3rd.  My dad didn't give me away at my 1st wedding becuase we were married at the courthouse.  But when I asked him if he wanted to walk me down the aisle this time he was thrilled.  So ask your dad and see what he thinks.  If he's not too thrilled with the idea then ask if he minds if someone else does it... or just go it alone.  Best of luck on your up coming wedding.