Hello ladies, I have a problem and It seems like you are the best group of people to give me some advice.
My former best friend and I had a falling out over my divorce. Long story short, I was emotionally abussed by the ex and kept it to myself out of shame. She was angry that I didn't confide in her about how I was feeling and decided that I was throwing away my marriage.It was further complicated by the fact that when I married my ex, she and I became family due to our husbands being related. He even stayed with them for a few months after the divorce and filled her head with god only knows what. I felt and still feel like she sided with him in the divorce. She was completely unsupportive when I needed her the most.
When I became involved with my fiance and moved away from our hometown to be with him, she called him horrible things and said that he was stealing her best friend away. Its been a year since I moved and contact between us has been limited to a few posts on facebook.
Now my fiance and I are making our save the date cards for our wedding next year. Even after all of this, its hard for me to let go of this friendship. It really hurts that she reacted that way to my divorce and I want things to be the way they were years ago. I'm torn. I want to invite her because she was my best friend. She was my maid of honor the first time around, and I know that If I don't invite her, it will be the provobial nail in the coffin to our friendship.
On the other hand, I can't wrap my head around the idea of inviting someone to our wedding who is so unsupportive of my relationship and my life. No matter how close we used to be.
I guess I'm not really asking what to do, because I already know that I won't be inviting her. This is our day, the begining of our new life together and someone who doesn't support that shouldn't be there. I guess I don't really know what I'm asking. For reasurance maybe? To know that I'm not alone? I'm just sad at the loss of the friendship and planning my wedding without my former best friend seems very strange. She was there for every part of the process last time.
I miss her, but I can't fully forgive her.