So here's the skinny:
My first wedding, it was a fairly big to-do. Not extravagant, as the bulk of the budget went into the receptions (there were three different ones) and honeymoon, but it had a good number of bells and whistles. Now, this go round I'd like simple, elegant, and small.
On his side, his first wedding was a quickie jeans and JP affair with no one else involved. This go round, he says he wants small and simple, but as we talk about invitations the number of folks he feels "really need to be there" expands.
He is the type of guy that is unabashedly romantic at heart, though he claims not to be. So i suspect that he now has the opportunity to actually have a "proper wedding", that is what he's sliding to.
The plan thus far is to have a destination wedding in CO. I would like to invite 2 attendants on each side, and parents on both side ... and then lease a vacation home. We would officiate our own ceremony, and then start our life-adventure with family and closest friends vacationing in Estes Park. He and I have cohab'd for nigh on 10 years now, so the man and I don't really require a honeymoon, per se`. The sheer bulk of the cost for us would be footing the entire house rental. But, the more he tacks on extra people that "need to be there", the higher the cost becomes as I am trying to find lodging for them.
Now, I know that we should (and we will) be having a good conversation about it, and will need to come to compromises ... which I have no problem with. But what sorts of things have you ladies out there brought up as points toward "small = better" other than finances? I don't want to use the finances card with impunity.
Or are there actual advantages to having something larger and more traditional that I am not thinking of?