This is my second marriage and his first. FI is so excited to have a big wedding and I had a small wedding the first time and am not opposed to having a bigger wedding.
First, no one in my family feels this is appropriate even though it is his first wedding and seem to care less about this wedding at all.
Second, my FMIL keeps pressuring us to elope so my FILs can have a vacation (her words, not mine) FI does not want to and refuses to even talk about eloping.
Third, my FSIL is getting married 5 months before ours and I feel like my FMIL is trying to turn both weddings into a real life "Bride Wars". This is not what either of us want but neither of us know what to say to make her stop. Every time I try to discuss my FI and I's wedding it gets turned into my FSIL's wedding and how they could use what I suggested or talked about. They booked the venue we chose for my FSIL's reception even though they knew we were just waiting for the calendar to become available for our date.
Fourth- My MOH (my sister) is throwing a fit about the bridesmaids dress that everyone has picked. We want everyone in long dresses and she wants one that is above the knee.
Fifth and Finally- My FI is a veteran of the USMC and has decided to wear his blues for the ceremony and a Tux for the reception. I feel like the dress I picked wont even compare to the formality of the new venues and his uniform because its much more casual and now am debating on getting another one that is more formal.
Any advise?
TIA!