So my FI and I are eloping to vegas with his kids next August. They will know probably the night before. They know we are doing a "family vacation" and we do one a year anyway so nothing unusual with that. Renting a beautiful house, planning some shoes with kids, and a fabulous wedding. Yes, they will both have wedding appropriate clothes. The little girl(will be 11) will have some dresses for a "nice dinner" that I will get fitted for her next summer. The boy, who will be 18 and graduating, is getting a tailored suit as part of a "graduation present". They will be told by these "Vegas" boxes that have all kinds of Vegas stuff in theme from peace cranes, stuffed animals for the girl, Zippo lighters for the boy from Vegas, a special personalized invite for both, etc.
So that's the background.and yes, the kids know we will be getting married at some point. So here's the question. We also want to give each of the kids something special on our wedding day. So who should it come from-me or both of us or should he get something for them as well? The current plan is a money clip or cuff links for the boy and a personalized bracelet that has a tiny bird on it (her nickname from her dad is "bird" since she is so small). So should the kids get presents from us as a group, just me or one from me and one from their dad? Is there etiquette for this?
Thanks.