This is my second wedding. The first one was taken care of by my awesome family in a month and a half. This one I am doing all by myself and I have no idea what I am doing. My fiance is in the military and we are planning on getting married after he gets back from being deployed because they get a month of block leave after that (that way all our friends can come). I am looking ta venues but I also have a million other things to do as well. I know what I want for a theme and it is very specific so those venues that take care of everything make me nervous. My first wedding cake was a disaster with fake plants coming out of it and it was a pukey shade of green. So I am not so sure about using a cake that the venue provides. I was thinking about doing the small things first and then booking the venue, worrying about decorations, etc when we book the venue. Any advice?