Or even a thought about anybody but themselves? Seriously, i'm so frustrated! Yesterday FI's grandma posted a comment on my facebook saying "well, we definitely got our card and we're planning on coming." And I said "yeah, I know you are, but would you mind sending me the RSVP card back anyway? I'm not really putting check marks on "accepted" until I get the RSVP cards back just in case, and it makes me feel better to see positive RSVPs in the mail." and she had a COW! Apparently it was rude to tell her that she should send the pre-addressed, postage paid card back to us because it "should be obvious" they were coming. Apparently I was just putting those cards in the envelopes and paying extra postage for kicks. Even though everyone in my family has declined except my dad and grandma, they ALL have sent their RSVPs in. From FI's family, nobody has. And to not only NOT send it back, but to get OFFENDED because someone asked you to mail the card that clearly is meant to be mailed, is just ridiculous. I can't just sit here and assume everyone's going to show up, even if she IS his grandma, because my mom's parents declined too.
And on a second note, FMIL called me today when she found out that all of my family had declined, and said "oh, well that's a shame. Can you use your extra invitations to invite (XYZ random people that FI doesn't even know)? I mean, if your family can't make it, it's not fair to FI to not invite people who care about him." I just found out my entire family is not going to come to the wedding with the exception of 2 people, and all she can think about is "oh good, that means I can call her to get more of my friends added to the guest list"? UGH.
Rant over for the time being.