I just had my bridal shower this past weekend. My FMIL came to VT from NY along with FI Aunt and Grandmother. The plan was for FMIL, Aunt and Grandmother to go to my Grandmother's house to see the flower girls dresses and then to come back to my parents house for dinner. From what I have been told, I was not there, was FI's grandmother said she was tired and they were going back to the hotel, they just drove 6 hours for the bridal shower. I guess after that was said my mother didn't ask them back for dinner. Once FI's family got back to NY FI called to see how the drive went. Apparently it did not go very well because his mother said his family will no longer be attending the wedding. I know it was wrong for my Mother not to invite them back to her house for dinner, because that was the plan. But to not come to her son's wedding because of it. Is she over reacting. I am not supposed to know that they are upset and I am not supposed to tell my family. FI's mother told him not to tell me. I really don't know wht to do. FI can't see getting married without his mother there. We have been together 8 years without a major problem. I am scared of what this is going to do to our relationship. Please help.