Long story short I picked my best friend and my older sister to both be my MOH's..mainly because my FI picked his bestfriend and younger brother as his Best men and we couldn't decide.
Now I have my sister, bestfriend, sister in law, and sis to be as my crew and I already am seeming to have some issues without knowing it! I am starting to wonder if I should have just put my bestfriend as the MOH.
My sister is really close to me however she is going through a really tough time right now with a divorce, financially, and she is very emotional about everything these days... she works with my dad and he told me she was really stressed about being the MOH and that she didn't know how she was going to afford all of this stuff and blah blah blah. So I was already worried because all I was expecting from her was just to hopefully buy the dress and show up and be there for me when I need it. Now she is sending me emails and messages trying to plan the bridal shower in advance and it's stressing me out because I know she doesn't have the money etc.
On the other hand my sis-in-law called a month ago asking to pay for the bridal shower and throw the whole thing.. I thought this would be amazing however I know if my sister wants to plan it she wants to do it all her self and I know my sis-in-law really really wants to do this for me (pay for it and throw it).
Meanwhile my bestfriend/MOH I appointed to the bachelorette party and she is all over that no problem, and my sis-to-be hasn't been involved really at all which is fine.
I guess I am juts not sure what to do here because I don't know how much control I really ahve over the girls as far as planning a bridal shower for me. I would like for my sis-in-law to be in charge and handle it however I don't want to upset my sister/MOH when I guess it is more her role to do even thought I can just see her being so stressed, not having money for it, and being extremely overwhelmed and negative about it. HELP!