Moms and Maids
Is it ever ok to object?
I'm a MOG who has kept her mouth closed and my purse stings open. We are paying for 1/2 of the wedding with the other 1/2 divided between the brides parents and the happy couple. That doesn't include the cost of a rehearsal dinner, which they don't want or the cost of the brides dress which I paid for since I didn't want her to have to pay for it herself. I have 3 daughters and plan on buying all of their dresses. To me this is a new daughter and if her mom or stepmom aren't buying it, I am happy to do so.
I have two things that are really troubling me and I am not sure if I should say so or keep quiet.
The first thing is that they are not having flowers. They are doing nice center pieces and the bride will have a bouquet. There is no bridal party. The bride does have a sister, mother and stepmother. The groom also has mother, 3 sisters and a grandmother attending. I really want us all to have some sort of flower especially for the grandmother. I think it is appropriate for the immediate family, including men to have some kind of flower. It helps guests who may not know you that you are an important person in the couples lives. I am more that willing to pay for it but should I even bring it up? I think it is not important to the the bride's mom to have any flowers so the couple thinks it is ok to exclude it but is it ok for me to say it is important to me?
The other thing is the mother son dance. My son asked me to select one and I immediately told hiim what I would like. Now a month before the wedding he tells me that his bride would prefer another song. One that has no meaning to me. I am willing to compromise but I feel like my son or I should select it.
I'm curious to hear what other things Mother's objected to and what is the nicest way to voice it?
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