Hello Ladies!
Yes, absolutely I'm excited.. I adore my FDIL, she's amazing, beautiful and cannot wait for my son and her to get married! (Here's my first post, it's kinda long, sorry, but maybe someone here and also post there and give me some advice there too? LOL)
http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_mog-shower-rd-oh-need-long-very-sorryThe depressing part?
Me.
I want so much to look nice for their wedding (in the Fall), but I know I'm not going to. I'm fat. I don't know how to dress for these things. My favorite clothing - t-shirts and sweatpant. I buy my clothes at Walmart. I pay $5.00 for a pair of Haines sweatpants in the men's department, XL size. Most all of my t-shirts have little pin-holes in them from being washed so many times. I think I own about 5 pairs of sweats, and probably 15 t-shirts. Ssince I telecommute, JAMMIES are my work-clothes. If I buy clothes, I buy them at Walmart. If my husband and I do go out, I have a pair of elastic waist jeans and a pullover shirt - or I just wear a nicer t-shirt.
Shoes? HA! Let's just say, my dad always said.. "you wear the box, not the shoe".. If my feet don't swell, then I can maybe wear a size 10W - if they swell, it's an 11W.
Makeup? Nope. I never wore makeup. My husband wouldn't know me if I wore makeup. Well, okay, when I was young & skinny at 115, my husband and I would hit the dance floor in the clubs and close them down. Then when we got in our late 30's/early 40's we pretty much gave it up - and guess what, the weight came on both of us. Hair? I just pull it back in a pony tail. Sometimes I don't even comb it after I wash it - BECAUSE, I am losing so much of it, and pulling a comb through it pulls more out. (It use to be so thick and gorgeous)
I am SO THANKFUL that my FDIL has said to me, "
wear what makes you feel comfortable" - that's not going to work, as it's t-shirts & sweatpants.
I'm so depressed. Her mom picked out this beautiful long formal gown - is it Alfred Angelo or something? Her mom is going to look gorgeous, while I'm going to look frumpy. I actually had to call my OWN mother and cry on her shoulder about how depressing it was because I'll be embarrassed for my son & FDIL with the way I look.
I have lost about 30 pounds so far. I can SEE MY FEET now when I stand up. When her mom ordered her dress she emailed me and asked if I was interested (innocently, as I wouldn't tell her at all how I was feeling, she has enough on her mind with the DIY things). Well, I finally broke down and explained how awful I felt about how I looked and I didn't want to embarass either her or my son. Bless her heart, she emailed me back so understanding that she made me cry again.
I don't know what to do ladies. I really don't.
All I can think of is waiting until the Wednesday before the wedding when we fly in and then my mom & I will go and look for something and HOPE I find something. I also can't afford to pay more than probably $50.00 for a dress. (unemployment, ready to lose house to foreclosure, etc..)
Any advice? Suggestions?
Thank you. I'm sorry this is so long.
Ashamed, MOG